The past four weeks have been crazy, and I've been delinquent in posting. We had family visiting from out of town and decided not to come out to them, putting a lot of stress on our trio. Not fun. But I'm back, and ready to keep posting again,and answering your questions.In my last post I promised … [Read more...]
Last week I asked you what you wanted from this blog. You let me know that you wanted to hear more about how things are working for us, every day. When I first began this blog I talked about swinging and casual encounters, as that's what we had the most experience in in the past. However, this … [Read more...]
The Demographics of Adultury
The National Post recently posted an interesting infographic from the Kinsey Institute on the demographics of adultery. Since the 1990s, the number of women who reported ever having an affair has risen to 19% from about 12%. Men have stayed stable at around 23%. When romantic transgressions … [Read more...]
My Time Alone.
In my last post I told you about transitioning to life after separation. I was heading back to the US for my first business trip since leaving Dan and I was looking forward to a little space between me and my messy life. Most people here had no idea what was going on in my personal life and I liked … [Read more...]
The Bed I Made.
In my last post I had just left my marriage. At the time I felt a combination of relief, hope, fear and loneliness. Dan and I had been through so much and I still cared about him a lot but I needed some space. The one thing I thought I knew for sure in the jumble of all of this was that I couldn't … [Read more...]
Infidelity. How it all began.
Two years into our marriage my relationship with Dan was as it had always been - best friends. We never fought because best buds rarely do. We spent a lot of time with our old friends. In fact, not much had really changed at all. There were times when I tried to talk with Dan about what was missing … [Read more...]
I don’t conform therefore I am…
a) a cheap slut b) selfish c) a nut puncher d) a sex addict e) self-indulgent f) irresponsible g) infected with/spreading STIs h) a liar i) a gift taker j) a re-gifter k) a brunette...no wait, a redhead l) a bad mother m) a … [Read more...]
No. I'm not Lyla (thank god). But I am your new voice at Dirty Little Secrets (which, btw, I probably would have named something different but, I inherited it so I'm stuck with it). Here's a little about me and how my new gig here started:We weren't getting regular posts at DLS so I thought it was … [Read more...]
It’s My Life.
You may hate me. I am surprised but I really don't care if you do. I used to. A lot. Which is part of the reason my life was hell. I was trying so hard to get everyone's approval. But I'm not anymore and it is so damn liberating.I have done a ton of therapy and continue to reveal and examine parts … [Read more...]
Well, the honeymoon is over. The peaceful days after my release from the hospital are gone as I have been gradually weaned off most of my meds. That numb oblivion has been replaced by my harsh reality. I am coming back to the realization that my life is a mess and I have no idea how to fix it. But … [Read more...]