I'm...struggling.Yesterday I found out my ex has begun seeing someone new. I'll be honest - I wasn't completely surprised, but my kids sure were. In the end, I believe he did what he thought was best to bring the two sides of his life together, but it turned into an emotional train-wreck for my … [Read more...]
My Time Alone.
In my last post I told you about transitioning to life after separation. I was heading back to the US for my first business trip since leaving Dan and I was looking forward to a little space between me and my messy life. Most people here had no idea what was going on in my personal life and I liked … [Read more...]
Separation.
Last week I went back to the early days of my marriage and told you how it all started. This week I will continue my story:As the cab drove me home from the airport I was shaking. I knew I had to face Dan but I also knew my liberation meant heartbreak for my best friend. I had called him as I was … [Read more...]
It’s My Life.
You may hate me. I am surprised but I really don't care if you do. I used to. A lot. Which is part of the reason my life was hell. I was trying so hard to get everyone's approval. But I'm not anymore and it is so damn liberating.I have done a ton of therapy and continue to reveal and examine parts … [Read more...]
The Fun Part
So James and I parted on good terms, a date booked in our calendars and ready to take up our regular lives for the next two weeks until my kids were next at their dad's house. But, funny thing about that: after I left Starbucks I found I had a really hard time not thinking about him. A lot. Of … [Read more...]
Scared Sexless
I'll let you in on a little secret: I'm not the first in my group of friends to get divorced. In fact, out of a really close-knit group of four girlfriends, three of us have split from our husbands. That is higher than the national average, but not really all that unusual. We each ended up single … [Read more...]
Trash Talk
So I was surfing around this evening and came across this post on momcrunch, which references a post originally written on She Posts about a now-closed blog called "Psycho Ex-Wife". This blog is essentially the brainchild of a man and his current partner (they're not married; whether … [Read more...]
What’s in a Name?
It was Shakespeare who wrote that, and by george, the Bard is usually one smart cookie. But here's a case where I might just have to disagree with his poetic wisdom. Because I happen to think that names are actually pretty important. Well, at least to me. Which is precisely why I had such a terribly … [Read more...]
Separate and Apart
Well, it's for real. My husband and I are now living, in the words of the law, "separate and apart". It's been...a long, hard journey. And now that I'm here, I can look back and realize that the getting here was a lot worse than the being here is (does that make any kind of sense at all?). What I … [Read more...]
every night a different man calling me on the phone
Every night for the last week a different man is calling me on the phone.With that deep and masculine voiceHe says he needs to count on me.He wants my trust.He wants my confidence.He desires my feedback.He says we can overcome any issues.He assures me he has the solutions.He wants meHe asks if he … [Read more...]