Do I get jealous? Yes, sometimes.My jealousy stems from two main areas. First, I'm jealous when I don't have enough information. When I know where my husband is, what girl he is with, and have a general idea of what they'll be doing, I'm not jealous. However, when there's a new girl in his office … [Read more...]
We are not alone
In a study by Philip Blumstein and Pepper Schwartz in 1983, they discovered in a random survey of of 3,498 married men, 903 had an agreement with their spouses allowing extramarital sex, or 26%. Out of 3,520 married women, 801 had an agreement with their spouses allowing extramarital sex, or … [Read more...]
No Strings Attached Sex
When we stepped into swinging initially, it was strictly for sexual exploration. We didn't have any outside contact with the couples we met up with, other than to have a drink or dinner as a precursor to ending up in bed with them. It was straight up, casual, no strings attached sex. Here's an … [Read more...]
Tell me Everything
The key to any good marriage is definitely good communication. It's feeling comfortable telling your partner what you're really thinking and being ok with listening to how they feel as well. In an open marriage - it's absolutely critical. We communicate exceptionally well in our relationship. I … [Read more...]
Label it
Last week I wrote about how it all started. Today, I'd like to address where we've ended up - at least in terms of what to call what we're doing. There's a lot of labeling in our world. It's certainly easier to judge someone when you can shoehorn them into a box and slap a label on the outside. … [Read more...]
How it all Began
My husband and I recently celebrated 14 years of marriage. We're perfectly complimentary - I'm an extrovert, he's an introvert. When I get amped about an idea, he helps me make the tactical plans, and when he's reticent to participate in something, I'll nudge him along and help smooth his way … [Read more...]
Ricki Lake – a Swinger?
Apparently not. She says it's not for her - she likes monogamy - but she did cover the topic in a recent episode. http://therickilakeshow.com/episodes-clips/2012/9/Reality-TV-Stars-Talk-Swinging I liked that the swingers they interviewed weren't the very marginal respresentatives of swinging - … [Read more...]
This Ain’t No Key Party
Who Am I? I'm a normal, middle-class, married to my high school sweetheart Canadian mom of two. My husband and I couldn't look more like the "Joneses" if we tried. We're average in pretty much every way - except we have an open marriage, and have sex with other people. To look at us, we … [Read more...]
Facing the Music
After more than a month of being in the US for work I knew I had to go home. Even if just for a weekend, I needed to sit down with Dan and sort this out. So, I took Friday off, booked a ticket and went straight from the airport to our old apartment where I planned to meet Dan for our big talk.I had … [Read more...]
Infidelity. How it all began.
Two years into our marriage my relationship with Dan was as it had always been - best friends. We never fought because best buds rarely do. We spent a lot of time with our old friends. In fact, not much had really changed at all. There were times when I tried to talk with Dan about what was missing … [Read more...]