Lisa Ling learns about polyamory on her show, OWN Our America. The show features a W - five individuals in a relationship together. The show doesn't outline the specific lines around each individual to the other individuals, but it's an interesting look at a unique relationship. Can I see our … [Read more...]
Long time, no chat!
The past four weeks have been crazy, and I've been delinquent in posting. We had family visiting from out of town and decided not to come out to them, putting a lot of stress on our trio. Not fun. But I'm back, and ready to keep posting again,and answering your questions.In my last post I promised … [Read more...]
My Story
Last week I asked you what you wanted from this blog. You let me know that you wanted to hear more about how things are working for us, every day. When I first began this blog I talked about swinging and casual encounters, as that's what we had the most experience in in the past. However, this … [Read more...]
Ask me Anything
I'm struggling with what to write about these days. The problem is that I'm unsure of who my audience is. Are you reading this blog because you're poly and want to hear my thoughts on some of the highlights and challenges? Are you wondering whether the poly lifestyle, or a swinging one, is an option … [Read more...]
Honesty is the best policy. Except when it’s not.
My husband and I are completely honest with each other,about everything. And we're very open and honest with the partners we've had. We think it's the foundation to successful open relationships - truthfulness.And yet, I lie to some of the people in my life I love most. I lie to my mother when … [Read more...]
Is Poly a Choice?
There's been some debate recently, spurred by sex columnist Dan Savage, who identifies himself as monogamish, about polyamory being a choice. That you choose to act poly, not simply are poly. Savage had expressed his opinion that it was a choice, and was soundly thumped by members of the poly … [Read more...]
Will my Marriage Thrive, Survive or Die?
The truth is, I don't know. The story of our relationship isn't written yet. I suspect it has about as good a chance as any marriage. Couples break up because of basic personality conflicts, stress over money, work or kids, cheating, or simply falling out of love. Having an open marriage is no more … [Read more...]
Simultaneous Love
When we were swinging, there was never any emotional connection. It was just sex, and there was no opportunity for it to become more. We did things together, never separate. With polyamory, it's a completely different thing. Now there's the emotional connection. People ask me, how can I share his … [Read more...]
The Demographics of Adultury
The National Post recently posted an interesting infographic from the Kinsey Institute on the demographics of adultery. Since the 1990s, the number of women who reported ever having an affair has risen to 19% from about 12%. Men have stayed stable at around 23%. When romantic transgressions … [Read more...]
What’s Missing?
I've heard the argument that my main relationship must be lacking something that I need. That I'm not fulfilled. I disagree. I was deeply satisfied by my relationship before we opened it up, and if one of us decided to close it, I feel I'd still be deeply satisfied by my relationship. For us, it's … [Read more...]