Lisa Ling learns about polyamory on her show, OWN Our America. The show features a W - five individuals in a relationship together. The show doesn't outline the specific lines around each individual to the other individuals, but it's an interesting look at a unique relationship. Can I see our … [Read more...]
What to Tell the Children
A few weeks ago someone asked me if we were "out" with our kids. We aren't, yet. It's a topic we talk about frequently, as my eldest is 9 and becoming more aware of the interactions of the people around her. We're not out with our kids because we're not out with our families. And as every parent … [Read more...]
Honesty is the best policy. Except when it’s not.
My husband and I are completely honest with each other,about everything. And we're very open and honest with the partners we've had. We think it's the foundation to successful open relationships - truthfulness.And yet, I lie to some of the people in my life I love most. I lie to my mother when … [Read more...]
Is Poly a Choice?
There's been some debate recently, spurred by sex columnist Dan Savage, who identifies himself as monogamish, about polyamory being a choice. That you choose to act poly, not simply are poly. Savage had expressed his opinion that it was a choice, and was soundly thumped by members of the poly … [Read more...]
Will my Marriage Thrive, Survive or Die?
The truth is, I don't know. The story of our relationship isn't written yet. I suspect it has about as good a chance as any marriage. Couples break up because of basic personality conflicts, stress over money, work or kids, cheating, or simply falling out of love. Having an open marriage is no more … [Read more...]
Simultaneous Love
When we were swinging, there was never any emotional connection. It was just sex, and there was no opportunity for it to become more. We did things together, never separate. With polyamory, it's a completely different thing. Now there's the emotional connection. People ask me, how can I share his … [Read more...]
The Demographics of Adultury
The National Post recently posted an interesting infographic from the Kinsey Institute on the demographics of adultery. Since the 1990s, the number of women who reported ever having an affair has risen to 19% from about 12%. Men have stayed stable at around 23%. When romantic transgressions … [Read more...]