I wanted to start off the year with a series of "New Year, new you" posts focusing on positive ways to improve your life in 2016. But then I came across an article in the January 7 online issue of The National Post called, "Can an affair save a marriage?" That's when I lost my … [Read more...]
Long time, no chat!
The past four weeks have been crazy, and I've been delinquent in posting. We had family visiting from out of town and decided not to come out to them, putting a lot of stress on our trio. Not fun. But I'm back, and ready to keep posting again,and answering your questions.In my last post I promised … [Read more...]
Where my poly people at?
I started questioning monogamy as early as high school, and that was basically before the Internet. It was extremely difficult to find out anything about non-traditional relationships, and I certainly couldn't find anything online that would lead me to real life people. It wasn't until I was in … [Read more...]
Is Poly a Choice?
There's been some debate recently, spurred by sex columnist Dan Savage, who identifies himself as monogamish, about polyamory being a choice. That you choose to act poly, not simply are poly. Savage had expressed his opinion that it was a choice, and was soundly thumped by members of the poly … [Read more...]
The Demographics of Adultury
The National Post recently posted an interesting infographic from the Kinsey Institute on the demographics of adultery. Since the 1990s, the number of women who reported ever having an affair has risen to 19% from about 12%. Men have stayed stable at around 23%. When romantic transgressions … [Read more...]
We are not alone
In a study by Philip Blumstein and Pepper Schwartz in 1983, they discovered in a random survey of of 3,498 married men, 903 had an agreement with their spouses allowing extramarital sex, or 26%. Out of 3,520 married women, 801 had an agreement with their spouses allowing extramarital sex, or … [Read more...]
Pattinson moves out
Who needs to watch the Twilight saga when Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart have one of their own? People Magazine is reporting today that Pattinson, 26 has moved out of the L.A. home he shares with Stewart - his girlfriend of three years and Twilight co-star. His action follows the … [Read more...]
The Bed I Made.
In my last post I had just left my marriage. At the time I felt a combination of relief, hope, fear and loneliness. Dan and I had been through so much and I still cared about him a lot but I needed some space. The one thing I thought I knew for sure in the jumble of all of this was that I couldn't … [Read more...]
He’s My Valentine…Again.
This year my husband and I will be celebrating our 20th Valentine's Day together. TWENTY. One has to get pretty creative to make Valentine's Day romantic and exciting after this many times around. We used to do surprise weekend getaways, romantic dinners out and give cards declaring our love for … [Read more...]
This Year.
For a year I poured my heart and soul out here at Dirty Little Secrets on UrbanMoms. This past year was one of reflection, honesty, and fantasy. Of heartache, shame, and recovery. It was scandalous and it was tragic. It was the story of my life as I saw it. And maybe, sometimes, as I wanted it to … [Read more...]