Lisa Ling learns about polyamory on her show, OWN Our America. The show features a W - five individuals in a relationship together. The show doesn't outline the specific lines around each individual to the other individuals, but it's an interesting look at a unique relationship. Can I see our … [Read more...]
Long time, no chat!
The past four weeks have been crazy, and I've been delinquent in posting. We had family visiting from out of town and decided not to come out to them, putting a lot of stress on our trio. Not fun. But I'm back, and ready to keep posting again,and answering your questions.In my last post I promised … [Read more...]
My Story
Last week I asked you what you wanted from this blog. You let me know that you wanted to hear more about how things are working for us, every day. When I first began this blog I talked about swinging and casual encounters, as that's what we had the most experience in in the past. However, this … [Read more...]
Ask me Anything
I'm struggling with what to write about these days. The problem is that I'm unsure of who my audience is. Are you reading this blog because you're poly and want to hear my thoughts on some of the highlights and challenges? Are you wondering whether the poly lifestyle, or a swinging one, is an option … [Read more...]
What to Tell the Children
A few weeks ago someone asked me if we were "out" with our kids. We aren't, yet. It's a topic we talk about frequently, as my eldest is 9 and becoming more aware of the interactions of the people around her. We're not out with our kids because we're not out with our families. And as every parent … [Read more...]
Being Unreasonable
"Your crazy is showing." It's phrase I use sometimes with myself when I know I'm being unreasonable about something. I'd actually like to choose a different word than crazy, but haven't settled on the right one (suggestions?). What it means to me is that we all have ideas, thoughts, desires, … [Read more...]
Get a room
Did you hold your sweetheart's hand shopping on Boxing Day this year? Lay an arm behind them on the couch on Christmas Eve while you chatted with your parents? Stole a quick kiss without being terrified that someone might see you? I did, and I didn't. I could only do so with one of my two partners, … [Read more...]
Where my poly people at?
I started questioning monogamy as early as high school, and that was basically before the Internet. It was extremely difficult to find out anything about non-traditional relationships, and I certainly couldn't find anything online that would lead me to real life people. It wasn't until I was in … [Read more...]
Honesty is the best policy. Except when it’s not.
My husband and I are completely honest with each other,about everything. And we're very open and honest with the partners we've had. We think it's the foundation to successful open relationships - truthfulness.And yet, I lie to some of the people in my life I love most. I lie to my mother when … [Read more...]
Is Poly a Choice?
There's been some debate recently, spurred by sex columnist Dan Savage, who identifies himself as monogamish, about polyamory being a choice. That you choose to act poly, not simply are poly. Savage had expressed his opinion that it was a choice, and was soundly thumped by members of the poly … [Read more...]