I'm struggling with what to write about these days. The problem is that I'm unsure of who my audience is. Are you reading this blog because you're poly and want to hear my thoughts on some of the highlights and challenges? Are you wondering whether the poly lifestyle, or a swinging one, is an option … [Read more...]
Where my poly people at?
I started questioning monogamy as early as high school, and that was basically before the Internet. It was extremely difficult to find out anything about non-traditional relationships, and I certainly couldn't find anything online that would lead me to real life people. It wasn't until I was in … [Read more...]
Will my Marriage Thrive, Survive or Die?
The truth is, I don't know. The story of our relationship isn't written yet. I suspect it has about as good a chance as any marriage. Couples break up because of basic personality conflicts, stress over money, work or kids, cheating, or simply falling out of love. Having an open marriage is no more … [Read more...]
What’s Missing?
I've heard the argument that my main relationship must be lacking something that I need. That I'm not fulfilled. I disagree. I was deeply satisfied by my relationship before we opened it up, and if one of us decided to close it, I feel I'd still be deeply satisfied by my relationship. For us, it's … [Read more...]
The Jealousy Question
Do I get jealous? Yes, sometimes.My jealousy stems from two main areas. First, I'm jealous when I don't have enough information. When I know where my husband is, what girl he is with, and have a general idea of what they'll be doing, I'm not jealous. However, when there's a new girl in his office … [Read more...]
We are not alone
In a study by Philip Blumstein and Pepper Schwartz in 1983, they discovered in a random survey of of 3,498 married men, 903 had an agreement with their spouses allowing extramarital sex, or 26%. Out of 3,520 married women, 801 had an agreement with their spouses allowing extramarital sex, or … [Read more...]
No Strings Attached Sex
When we stepped into swinging initially, it was strictly for sexual exploration. We didn't have any outside contact with the couples we met up with, other than to have a drink or dinner as a precursor to ending up in bed with them. It was straight up, casual, no strings attached sex. Here's an … [Read more...]
Tell me Everything
The key to any good marriage is definitely good communication. It's feeling comfortable telling your partner what you're really thinking and being ok with listening to how they feel as well. In an open marriage - it's absolutely critical. We communicate exceptionally well in our relationship. I … [Read more...]
Label it
Last week I wrote about how it all started. Today, I'd like to address where we've ended up - at least in terms of what to call what we're doing. There's a lot of labeling in our world. It's certainly easier to judge someone when you can shoehorn them into a box and slap a label on the outside. … [Read more...]
Ricki Lake – a Swinger?
Apparently not. She says it's not for her - she likes monogamy - but she did cover the topic in a recent episode. http://therickilakeshow.com/episodes-clips/2012/9/Reality-TV-Stars-Talk-Swinging I liked that the swingers they interviewed weren't the very marginal respresentatives of swinging - … [Read more...]