The past four weeks have been crazy, and I've been delinquent in posting. We had family visiting from out of town and decided not to come out to them, putting a lot of stress on our trio. Not fun. But I'm back, and ready to keep posting again,and answering your questions.In my last post I promised … [Read more...]
Ask me Anything
I'm struggling with what to write about these days. The problem is that I'm unsure of who my audience is. Are you reading this blog because you're poly and want to hear my thoughts on some of the highlights and challenges? Are you wondering whether the poly lifestyle, or a swinging one, is an option … [Read more...]
What to Tell the Children
A few weeks ago someone asked me if we were "out" with our kids. We aren't, yet. It's a topic we talk about frequently, as my eldest is 9 and becoming more aware of the interactions of the people around her. We're not out with our kids because we're not out with our families. And as every parent … [Read more...]
Is Poly a Choice?
There's been some debate recently, spurred by sex columnist Dan Savage, who identifies himself as monogamish, about polyamory being a choice. That you choose to act poly, not simply are poly. Savage had expressed his opinion that it was a choice, and was soundly thumped by members of the poly … [Read more...]
Will my Marriage Thrive, Survive or Die?
The truth is, I don't know. The story of our relationship isn't written yet. I suspect it has about as good a chance as any marriage. Couples break up because of basic personality conflicts, stress over money, work or kids, cheating, or simply falling out of love. Having an open marriage is no more … [Read more...]
We are not alone
In a study by Philip Blumstein and Pepper Schwartz in 1983, they discovered in a random survey of of 3,498 married men, 903 had an agreement with their spouses allowing extramarital sex, or 26%. Out of 3,520 married women, 801 had an agreement with their spouses allowing extramarital sex, or … [Read more...]
This Ain’t No Key Party
Who Am I? I'm a normal, middle-class, married to my high school sweetheart Canadian mom of two. My husband and I couldn't look more like the "Joneses" if we tried. We're average in pretty much every way - except we have an open marriage, and have sex with other people. To look at us, we … [Read more...]