This past weekend marked the 7th anniversary of the end of my marriage. I spent it in a brand new and wonderful way. Labour Day weekend has, for more than a dozen years, always looked a certain way; family cottage weekend, organizing of binders and books, end of summer BBQ, sharpening pencils, … [Read more...]
Summer Loving
What is it about summer? The heat? The freedom? The long days? I'm not sure but it always screams romance. Think of the movies that are all based around the summer loves.... Summer of '42 Summer Lovers Grease The Notebook Dirty Dancing A Walk to Remember (soooob) 500 Days of … [Read more...]
Thinking About The White Masai
When I was away on vacation, one of the decadent aspects was reading three books in five days. I used to read all the time but now I find it easier to numb my brain with bad TV for an hour or two after Will crashes instead of picking up a book. Very bad habit. I enjoyed the books far more than I … [Read more...]
first rule about marriage- don’t talk about marriage
There is an interesting phenomena when you are married - you don't talk about it to others. If you drink too much and say we never have sex or he sleeps in the basement or we never have any fun or he is lazy or my family hates her or she slept with my best friend or simply we are struggling- it … [Read more...]
backfilling your life
I have written about, thought about and worked on backfilling my life quite a bit over the last year. As one area of your life is shrinking, you must swell a new area. Something is running out the front door, new things have to come in the back door. My children are slowly leaving home and … [Read more...]
I don’t remember you like this
Someone I met briefly several years ago- showed up out of nowhere, just last week, in my online 'dating' inbox as a 'perfect' match. Please remember perfect match may mean any of the following- you both don't like snakes you both have all your teeth you both have no criminal … [Read more...]
words for wednesday- leaning against the wrong wall
For all of us who may have pursued the wrong person, the wrong career, the wrong promotion, the wrong lifestyle, the wrong degree, the wrong idea of happiness, the wrong marriage- this really spoke to me. "We get to the top of the ladder and realize it is leaning against the wrong wall" And … [Read more...]
I Love My Mom.
Yesterday was your birthday I am so glad you are in my life You are my example. And every day I wake up knowing you are on my side. … [Read more...]
Blubber
A year ago I was put under the knife (again) to have my lap band adjusted due to slippage. For those who are not familiar with gastric band surgery, I basically have an adjustable elastic band tied around the top of my stomach to fake my body into thinking it is full. Not really faking it because … [Read more...]
I see you through how I see myself
I was at a lunch today and we were talking about the bias we all bring into situations There are hardwired biases that we don't even know exist in ourselves and they pop in unannounced and without warning. They may be subtle or glaring but they are part of us. Without thinking I said " I am … [Read more...]