My father died this week after a long battle with dementia. It is many things I am coming to understand; painful, surreal, a blessing, darkness, light, a terrible sadness, a relief. When I understood he was gone, I felt a feeling I had never felt before. I felt my shoulders go up and down. … [Read more...]
Why We Are Afraid Of Talking About Dying
The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. - George Bernard Shaw I went to an End Of Life Choices seminar with my mom last week. I want to share some of what was presented. The ideas might be simple but because the topic is so heady, we can … [Read more...]
words for wednesday-what hurts you makes you stronger
A friend was over for dinner Friday night. He told me that a doctor friend of his said "if you are over 50 and nothing hurts, you are dead" Nothing hurts me. I will be 50 in two seasons from now. Maybe I am dead. (Is this heaven or hell?) It got me thinking about physical strength and how we … [Read more...]
I am not good at it
I am not good at something I want to be better at.I am not good at seeing my dad in a wheelchair, in a long term facility, in a diaper in a room with silence. In that after -lunch- room everyone is either sleeping or picking their nose or moaning a terrible moan.People once elegant and … [Read more...]