How old were you when you had your first baby? I was 30.
Back in the day that would have been considered old, but in todays standards it’s really young.
When I was off on mat leave with L’il E I met a great group of women who became my mummy friends. We talked about our first-time babies and the trials and tribulations, but we never talked age. It just never came up. Since then I’ve learned that many (actually almost all) of those women are four or five years older than me. I mentioned this to the Hubs the other day and he quickly replied, “That’s because we had kids too young!”
My neurotic mind began to race processing this very quick comment. Is that true? Did we have kids too young? Should we have waited? Well clearly the Hubs thinks so, but I disagree.
Sure it sucks because we haven’t had the same experiences as the older cohort of new parents have had, but I still think I had enough of a life before I turned 30. I did a bit of travelling, definitely partied hard, made a dent in my career, and had several kid-free married/dating years. I was practically a baby when I met the Hubs – 23 years old – I hadn’t even landed my first job, so by age 30 I was 7 years in to a long term relationship and ready to put down some roots. The Hubs (two years my senior) said he was too, but maybe the chaos of a toddler and an infant is clouding his memory.
Regardless, I have no regrets. I figure we can experience the other stuff later when we are a little more established and hopefully have more moolah. Plus once the boys grow up and out the Hubs and I will still be relatively young and will be able to get back out on the scene. Right?!
What are your thoughts? I just needed to put my mind at ease.