I took the kids back to school shopping Tuesday because we had no plans and I knew if we stayed home they would do nothing but taunt, tease and drive each other crazy.
Then on to the shoes! I love shoes and love buying my kids shoes. I tried to keep school practicality in mind.
Luckily my almost10 year old has wee feet (youth size 1 or 2), so he still fits into preschool category in most stores.
That had laces.
He could have chosen 3 other pair of Lego shoes that had a z strap or velcro, but it was the lace ups that he wanted.
Fine. We’ll try them on.
“I’m sorry. We don’t have his size in that style. But we have a 1 or 2 in all the other Lego styles.”
Of course you do.
I was hoping that he would forget about them.
Yesterday morning I found a pair that I thought he would love and bought them, hoping it would redirect his attention from the other shoes and save me a trip out of town for them.
I presented them to him with the most enthusiasm I could.
His response was a despondent “OhhhhNoooo…they’re velcro…I need tie up shoes…”
He talked about the lace ups all morning.
Demanded we go buy them.
Insisted he had to have them.
He asked every 15 minutes if we were going to the big mall to get them.
I kept telling him I didn’t think we should buy them because he didn’t know how to tie laces. He kept crying for them, saying he wanted laces.
Then…he said he wanted “to learn how to tie lacing shoes”.
These shoes were motivation for him. He learns when he is motivated.
We did compromise and came to an agreement that he velcro ones I bought will be his outdoor shoes. The lace ups will be indoor. I couldn’t do that to his EA (send 2 pair of lace ups).
We have a week and a half to work on it before school starts. I know it won’t happen that fast. This is going to be a long process for all of us. This skill is tricky for most kids to learn, never mind a kid with fine motor issues. Cam was in grade 3 when he mastered it. Unlike my generation who knew how to tie their shoes in kindergarten. There was no choice. No velcro shoes, no z straps, and nobody to do it for you. We learned because we had to.
Now it’s his turn. I believe he will learn because I expect him to.
I thought perhaps we should teach him in stages. Break it down into steps, allowing him to master one at a time.
I emailed his OT through school and posted on my ASD forum looking for strategies that might be helpful.