A group of us were hanging out last weekend when the littlest one, (so little I call her Bird,) in a turtleneck and a crew neck on a warm September day said, Oh I don't like my arms and never show them. They are flabby. In that moment we asked her to take off her two layers to her bra and we all … [Read more...]
Laughter Is (almost) Everything
We have such a good time together. It makes me so happy. When they say "Crawl into bed beside us, Mom," do it and stay for too long. … [Read more...]
A Young Woman of Great Promise
Any parent of a daughter (and let's face it: parents of sons, too) should be justifiably frightened by the emerging details of the Rehtaeh Parsons case. Pretty much any of us can imagine it: a fifteen year-old girl goes to a high school party, maybe even her first big party. Some booze is passed … [Read more...]
Is Money Really Dirty?
Once when I was little I was sucking on a penny, because I could, my mom said, "Honey, spit that out, money is so dirty." Later I married so much for love with no consideration for (how the other felt about) money that I almost drowned in debt. I have had an overarching love/hate relationship … [Read more...]
Happy Father’s Day Will’s Father!
This is our fifth Father's Day. The fifth time that I'm writing to you - saving the letters/posts to show to you one day, should Will choose. I think he will. He's the most curious kid ever. So what's happened this year? He continues to grow at a rate that is mind boggling. I bought him size … [Read more...]
Fatherless on Father’s Day – No Bigs!
It's the week leading up to Father's Day. This is the week where (thankfully) Will's teachers call and ask who Will should be making gifts for - an uncle, my dad, me?? I really appreciate them asking. Even though different family make-ups are rampant these days, I don't think that there are any … [Read more...]
Single-momming It (or: things you probably shouldn’t say within earshot of a single mom)
"Uuhhh..." she says, lolling her head and slouching. "I'm so exhausted. Trevor's traveling again so I'm totally single-momming it until Friday." A sympathetic "oh, honey..." a conciliatory pat on the back. The poor thing! Taking care of her children all alone! Welcome to our lives. We are the … [Read more...]
Let Me Ask You a Question. Or 500.
Let me ask you a question. How many questions a day do you think a four year old asks?? Well I googled it. Generally the answers ranged from 425 to 500. Ummm. Is that before 7am? Honestly. My life is a series of questions now. Each question starts with 'Mommy. Did you know' or 'Mommy, … [Read more...]
draconian mother methods
a girl has to do what a girl has to do … [Read more...]
Raising a Fatherless Son
There are a few women that I know and we're part of the club that you don't want a membership to. We are motherless mothers. At UrbanMoms alone there are a slew of us. There are books about being a motherless mom. It's a 'thing'. I was very fortunate to have had my mom for many years (not nearly … [Read more...]