Aside from breakfast, mornings also bring about the whole getting dressed part. This is a serious issue with Joshua and Zachary who both have Aspergers an Autistic Developmental Disorder. Unfortunately, sensory issues are part of the whole Aspergers package, and so because of this, Joshua has some major issues with clothing, particularly socks. In fact, he refuses to wear them. It doesn’t matter what kind they are, they never feel right.
This whole sock thing started when he was about two years old and just continually escalated over the years. By the time he was four it had become a battle of the socks every morning while trying to get ready for school. At this time of course I had no idea that Joshua even had Aspergers, so I did what every crazy good parent would do. I begged, I cried, I screamed.
It was ridiculous. I would spend at least an hour putting on the sock ever so gently only to make sure that there was no material bunched up. I then checked to ensure that the heel of the sock was in perfect line with his heel, and that the sock wasn’t twisted in any way. It didn’t matter. He would scream and kick his feet. The sock just didn’t feel right. So I would pull it off and attempt to put it on his other foot all over again in the exact same way. All that did was promote more foot kicking and louder screams, because it really didn’t matter what I did, it still didn’t feel right. However, being the stubborn person that I am, I still kept on trying and it drove me crazy. So crazy in fact that I started to think maybe it was actually me doing something wrong. I mean come on, what the hell kind of mother can’t even put socks on her own child’s foot without causing him such distress? I am surprised it didn’t drive me to the underworld of drinking, although at one point I think I came awfully close, yet instead I just became a sock obsessive mother. I was determined to have him go to school with socks on so his little feet wouldn’t freeze. Eventually though, Joshua’s crying, screaming, and pleading with me to make them feel right every morning just broke my heart. I couldn’t stand to see him like this and it made me feel so incompetent that I finally gave up. To this day he barely wears socks and I am happy to inform you that his feet have never frozen.
But along with the socks, there was also a point and time when Joshua was so disorganized in the morning that no matter how organized I was, he would venture into a tail spinning autistic meltdown over his clothes. Screw the socks. Nothing felt right! He would only wear one particular shirt which of course was a Pokémon shirt, and one particular pair of black track pants. It didn’t matter how many Pokémon shirts, or identical pants I bought it had to be those particular ones.
Then one morning he came downstairs in the happiest mood I had ever seen and was actually dressed! (in those clothes of course).
“Wow.” I said amazed. “What a great job you did getting dressed so fast this morning!”
Obviously very pleased with himself Joshua grinned and said “Oh I didn’t get dressed that fast. I wore my clothes to bed to save time!”
Does your child have issues with clothes having to feel Just Right?
Until Next time