My best friend and I always talk about how we feel we are in our prime- no matter when you ask us. It is truly obnoxious but if you think about it – it is all a state of mind. We have reached a point where we like ourselves in spite of occasional but persistent overwhelming evidence that we should not, we feel at our strongest, at our best, our most competent and therefore at our sexiest. We are both 48. I love that that is contrary to what the world tells us about age. Having said all that- we both agreed in all honesty that in spite of all of this 5 pounds can take us down. I am a bit ashamed of this but I am afraid it is true. I am good regardless but I am great if my number on the scale is, ahem…. well, what it is. I can’t tell whether that is society/media pressure or just how I know I feel at my best.
I don’t step on scales (the only reason we would have one in this house would be to weigh luggage) but I just know where I am at at any given moment. If my clothes are biting me – I am less happy. If I am less happy I am less sexy. My happiness depends on how I move in the world and if I am sluggish and sloppy I am not moving with a groove. If I am not moving with the groove then I am wasting precious moments. If I am wasting precious moments than I am down. If I am challenged, I feel sexy. If I am overcoming, I feel alive. If I feel alive, I feel sexy. If I feel sexy …. um okay that is enough.
This list we have compiled on what we find sexy in others /what helps us to feel sexy – it is completely gender non specific.
By the way if you are not finding this weather extremely sexy we have nothing in common.
Note this list has nothing physical on it. However, and this is a big however, you might not be as inclined to be all these things if you don’t feel good about yourself. So sexy is how we see ourselves and then how we move through our lives.
ok, enough of that – all body parts
intensity (how did I forget that the first time?)
passion about anything from food to work to sport to anything
doing what needs to be done
taking care of your body
taking care of your mind
taking care of your soul
This image sums it up –
Well, that is pure sexy. Strength and tenderness. It beats the hollywood shot at the top of the post.
What are your thoughts on sexiness? When do you feel at your most sexy? What do you find sexy in another?