It’s funny, right now my life is completely focused on one thing – my mom. I am honestly having trouble focusing or even caring that much about anything else. It is amazing how things that seemed so important a few weeks ago suddenly just don’t.
I think one person only has the emotional capacity to take on so much. There is limited space for this stuff or else you would go crazy or crawl under a rock or something. It would be overwhelming. That is how I feel. I am at maximum capacity so the rest just gets a more practical, less emotional response and a lot less of my time.
Take Halloween for example. Normally I am right into it. Maybe not as organized as some but this year it was a bit of an afterthought. We bought our candy the day of. My son’s costume was thrown together the day before. We didn’t even remember to light the jack-o-lantern or fire up the scary music. And you know what? It didn’t make a bit of difference. The kids had a great time and I was not worried about any of it. The details just all seemed insignificant.
Here are a few pics (that I remembered to take just before the costumes came off!):
My daughter. What a unique kid. All of her pals are princesses and she was a meat-eating dinosaur. Gotta love that girl!
Yup. My sweet boy was a dead business man with a bullet hole in his head. There was a big trend in scary with his group this year.
So, lesson of the day? The details are far less important than you think. Thanks to my friends who fed me beer and made me feel welcome on Halloween night. Good friends make everything better.
good friends really DO make things better!
ps. your kids = awesome.
Sometimes a holiday or special event around a tragic or difficult time in your life can be the best thing. It forces us to own up and face the fact that our darn globe will just keep on turning…
We buried my mom on Christmas Eve. How’s that for a downer? Trying to make “Christmas” that year for my kids was hell, and to be honest, has been a challenge ever since…but again, it shows me that Santa still comes, Jesus still has a birthday, the candies keep on coming, girls will be dinos and boys will continue to freak me out, AND… the world keeps on spinning, love still grows and grows.
I’m sending you good vibes. Happy vibes. Hang in there.
I meant BOBO, not Bob. LOL!
Ah yeah. Margot’s right. It’s either zombie Bob or zombie version of his own dad!
Not to alarm you Jen, but your son reminds me a bit of someone’s father in that pic!! Hee Hee!!
Good for you that you had a moment to focus on something else & enjoy yourself. Make sure that you laugh everyday (i’m sure your kids are great for that), it really is the best medicine.
Take care of yourself.