I think I am teaching myself the value of money. I am becoming “aware” of what I spend and the fact that I am saying it “out loud” to my son is the bonus!
I found my little guy in bed with his flash light the other night counting his piggy bank money. I was furious because I could hear change falling on the floor and I was worried that his little brother would swallow it later. I took the bank away. The next day he asked for it back and told me he wanted to buy something with his money. I let him take a couple of dollars from his bank and told him that when we went grocery shopping later that day he could buy something. It was the first time he ever bugged me to go grocery shopping!
We went to the grocery store later that day and the questions came fast and furious… “Can I have this.. Can I have that!”. I said “What you buy has to match what you have in your piggy bank.” In the end he picked out a fruit rollup-ppy type box that looked gross and we headed to check out.
I confess that I did not even notice how much fruit rolls cost. I just “assumed” he would have enough money ( I knew he had a couple of dollars). R. tried to pay for his purchase first. He didn’t have enough money. Bah! The line was getting longer. My stroller holding the 15 month old brother was right beside the candy. In the blink of an eye he took down a display of tic-tacs (I could have died from embarrassment).
Crap. What do I do now? Give him the extra money? Hmmmmmm….. That would be easy. I never do anything easy. I said ” You don’t have enough. You will have to choose something else. Then I realized that would take forever! Luckily the annoyed check out lady suggested a chocolate bar on sale for 49 cents. I didn’t want him to have it but the line was growing, tic tacs were all over the floor and he had the right amount of money for it so I said “okay”. R. was thrilled. R. .
Now that I don’t have a regular income I have been trying to save money. Yesterday I cleaned the bathtub and R. said “Are you cleaning the bathtub to save money?” He knows that our cleaning lady normally cleans our tub. I hate it but I figure my son needs to see me do this (and my husband for that matter) and as soon as he gets a little older he will be helping too! I expect some chores from him at five. He has to bring his dishes to the sink, make his bed (when I remind him too) and basically help me when asked.
Allowance for Chores????
Do you give allowance? After taking many parenting classes and becoming an parenting instructor I am surprised by the answer. NO you don’t. Children should be expected to help around the house and not for payment. Everyone in a family should be expected to contribute to the family. Payment for this is a no no. Instead when your kids get to be about five or six you should start giving them a weekly allowance for stuff they want etc. The point of this is for them to learn about managing money. How much is enough? What are your thoughts?