I was at a thing earlier this week, and a woman I have known for over 20 years although rarely see whose daughter is in my daughter’s grade, remarked on how well my youngest was doing. She noted that she has consistently found her marks to be on the distinction list these last years. How does she do it? She says. That is just amazing etc.
Something felt funny about this and I could not put my finger on it at the time although these comments came directly on the heels of her asking in a few different ways how often my children see their dad. I said I did not want to talk about that with her– *big smile*
She pushed again and I said ” Our life is very good” *bigger smile*
I got home and looked for the awards document and found her daughter’s name on the same list with the same high marks as mine.
And I thought there it is.
She was not saying “How does she do so well, consistently year after year?” After all her child does the same. It was “how does a child of a single mother do so well year after year ?”
Piss me $%^#ing off.
Thank- you I feel better now.
(there is every chance I am reading too much into this and hormonal. I am EXTREMELY obsessed with this stuff. See what we have, not what we don’t and don’t tell me what we can’t do)