My kids look like hobos. Before I got pregnant, I thought my children would look like this:
I love fashion and assumed my girls would always look adorable in cute outfits I hand-picked. They, however, have had other plans. From early ages they expressed very strong opinions about what they did not like to wear, and that included anything cute. Their favourite clothes are, of course, the ugliest articles of hand-me-downs we happened to inherit, and there’s no stopping it. It bothered me at first, as we have drawers filled with sweet clothes they refuse to wear, meanwhile choosing the homely Dora sweater they got from an older friend, but I have grown to not really give a thought to it. If there is ever a special occasion, I will insist they dress appropriately, but in the everyday excursions we go to, does it really matter if they’re not looking as stylish as the kids in the J. Crew catalogue? I would rather them feel as though they get a taste of autonomy in choosing their outfits; it gives them a bit of control and choice when so much of their lives are currently dictated by grown-ups. As it stands right now, both older girls have atrocious fashion sense, but I love that they feel great and confident in the things they choose to wear.
Do you make the fashion choices for your children or let them decide what to wear?