There seems to be a frightening rash of suicides in our community. More than ever or just more discussed and made public through social media? Hard to know. But one case is too many, so I want to dedicate this post to helplessness.
Helplessness is defined as lacking protection or support, defenceless, vulnerable, exposed, susceptible, undefended. This feeling, if uninterrupted for too long, often accompanies suicidal thoughts.
In a rich and long life a feeling of helplessness is likely on the menu more than once. Is the difference that when some of us feel helpless we see a way out ? We have a little trigger that says tomorrow will be better, friends and family can/ and will help, it is a phase, it will pass, my life is good and this is a blip ?
If you are severely depressed you don’t see any end to this feeling.
If you don’t see any end to this feeling, you see no way out.
I have known short, short times of darkness but I have always felt the light peeking in. I wonder, ( humbly, as how can I possibly understand) if maybe an absence of any perception of light is the difference. With that throw in any perceived taboo that might prevent the distraught form reaching out, add in true organic depression, trauma, sleeplessness and suicidal thoughts and you have a time bomb that could go off unexpectedly. Without clear warning.
I want to share a video that was created by the parents of a boy from a good and blessed family. A boy with every resource, all love and wonderful opportunities. A boy, however, with a feeling of no way out. A boy likely suffering from severe depression.
I want to know the signs and I know you do too.