Do you remember a few months back when I was pleading with you all for advice about how to get our baby to sleep through the night? I was so weary, getting up eight times a night, and I thought I was going to dissolve into a puddle of sleep-deprived woe. I kept on hoping things would naturally get better. “Surely she’ll figure it out by the time she’s six months old,” I’d reason, as I stumbled to her nursery for the sixth time that night. Then the six month mark would pass and I’d cling to the hope that once she was eating more solids, she’d start sleeping better. Didn’t happen.
Turns out all you need to get your baby to sleep through the night is this: a cold, black heart of stone.
After a particularly awful weekend away with Brinley where she didn’t sleep a wink, I finally broke. I came to the point where I realized that my getting up to cater to her every whim at night was no longer doing either of us any good anymore. It had been five years since I’d had consistent sleep and my body couldn’t take much more. My family and marriage were suffering since I woke up so depleted every morning, with no patience or hope. The time had come.
So, I took a few little tidbits of advice I’d gleaned from other moms, tucked Brinley in and said, “See you in the morning!” She howled for a good while the first two nights, but my crusty heart didn’t even flinch, so convinced was I that this was the right decision. I started staying home a little more in the mornings and afternoons so she can have consistent nap times each day, and that has really helped with the nights.
I hesitate to write this for fear of jinxing it, but she has been consistently sleeping through the night (we’re talking 11-12 hours) for three weeks. Sweet, delicious sleep, I missed you SO HARD.
I am so glad I finally did it and let her cry. I had to. She had to. And we’re all so much happier.
Did you let your kids cry it out? Or do you think it’s cruel? (For any attachment parents ready to use their moby wrap as a slingshot to pelt me in the head with a frozen cube of organic quinoa puree, please know that I tuned into all of my kids’ every needs at night for FIVE YEARS here and I really think my mental state was at risk. So there.)