Before I had my girls, I knew of friends with young daughters and they would regale me with tales of how their little ones cuddled on the couch with each other, played with one another’s hair, and snuggled in bed together. Cute little loving sisterly moments, I was sure they were headed my way.
Yeah, but no.
My two older girls rarely show physical affection to each other. My five year-old perches on an armchair in the corner of the living room while my three year-old sprawls on the couch by herself. If I try to convince them to sit together, they resist. They have never played in each other’s hair. (Pulled, yanked, and torn each other’s hair, but that’s about it.) The hug when we force them to, but it sure does not come naturally to them.
They are both much more affectionate with their baby sister and have always easily doled out hugs and kisses and cuddles and coos for her, but that’s as far as it goes.
I never had a sister, so I don’t know what’s normal. I wish my girls were more affectionate with each other, but they are just now starting to really, truly play together without clawing each other’s eyeballs out, so perhaps I should celebrate their progress and hope that one day I’ll walk into a room and find them braiding each other’s hair and singing Kumbaya.
Are your kids physically affectionate with one another? Do you find the kids of the same sex more likely to show affection to each other? Are my kids totally doing it wrong?!