In marriage, it can be so easy to focus on yourself. Your needs, your time, your ideas, your heart. Falling into the "he doesn't appreciate me and how AWESOME I am" trap can happen without even knowing it. This weekend away gave me the chance to really sit back, see my husband for who he is, … [Read more...]
Triple Threat
Three girls' voices, all clamoring over one another to be the loudest, the most heard. All the time, three voices, each clawing for my attention, begging for my time. Three voices.That's a lot of noise, a lot of needs, a lot of responsibility. I was born into my family as the only … [Read more...]
This Ain’t No Key Party
Who Am I? I'm a normal, middle-class, married to my high school sweetheart Canadian mom of two. My husband and I couldn't look more like the "Joneses" if we tried. We're average in pretty much every way - except we have an open marriage, and have sex with other people. To look at us, we … [Read more...]
FotoFriday – FamilyFoto
This was the last time our entire family (in Canada) got together. It was last August. I've been taking a lot of comfort in these people. … [Read more...]
Struts & Frets
I love music-themed books, especially when they talk a lot about music - this one does it very well. Struts & Fretsby Jon SkovronAmulet BooksISBN: 978 0 8109 4174 8This book is a few years old now (2009), but I liked it so much I wanted to share - and that only means that now you can get it more … [Read more...]
FotoFriday – Happy Faces
This is proof that they can be near each other without trying to maim each other. A rare moment of sibling love. … [Read more...]
Loss: When they grow up.
My son is 12 years/old. In a few months he will be a teenager. He is a really great kid, a good human being. I am proud of him and love him to bits. But things are changing. They are changing in a way I knew they would. But I admit, I secretly thought or hoped it might be different for us. We … [Read more...]
Scared Sexless
I'll let you in on a little secret: I'm not the first in my group of friends to get divorced. In fact, out of a really close-knit group of four girlfriends, three of us have split from our husbands. That is higher than the national average, but not really all that unusual. We each ended up single … [Read more...]
The Dating Game
Because it is a game, isn't it? And a damn scary one, at that: well, scary for a forty-something to get back into after over a decade in a failing marriage. But it's my story, my adventure, my journey; and I'm going to share it with you. First, a word about my marriage: from the beginning, I … [Read more...]
What makes a great marriage ?
Marriages have resilience the same way other things do; friendships, the human body, the human spirit and perhaps most resilient of all; children. (At least we are all hoping this is true)I have heard and observed too first hand, that this resilience has an expiry and drop dead time frame. … [Read more...]