A few weeks ago I signed up for a class called 40 Days to Personal Revolution at Power Yoga Canada. The course involved yoga, meditation, prescribed readings, a fruit cleanse and weekly meetings that were more like healing circles than any meeting I’d ever been to. At the beginning of the first healing circle, everyone had to set an intention—or a goal—for what they wanted to accomplish during their 40 days.
I knew right away that I was at a standstill after my divorce, that I had some unresolved issues to address, and I knew that these issues were holding me back from truly moving forward in my life—both emotionally and symbolically. Our coach, Chesley, helped each one of us strive to reach our individual goals. He was really proud of me when I had a breakthrough.
One day, feeling empowered by the program, I decided I was ready. I gathered together all my papers and went to Service Ontario to change my married name back to my maiden name—Silver. My hands shook as I signed my new-old signature for the first time in 10 years, but I went through with it.
Right after I changed my name, I drove to a jewellers called Classic Creations. I had gotten my wedding bands from my safety deposit box, and two years after taking them off for the last time, I was ready to give them up, too. I was greeted by a lovely gemologist named Lacey, as well as the owner, Ami, and explained my situation. I had two diamond bands, I was divorced and it was time to either trade them for some earrings or use the diamonds and remake them into earrings. We discussed the possible options and I felt strong enough to go forward either way. I had a good feeling about this store and I wanted to go with my gut.
I left my rings with Lacey and Ami and took a couple of extra days to make my final decision. I called Ami and told him that I wanted to sell him my bands and buy a pair of earrings I’d fallen in love with at his store. I had a negative association with my diamonds—a sick feeling in my stomach when I looked at them—and realized that what I needed was a fresh start; something new that I would be proud to call my own.
Ami and Lacey were very understanding. They made sure to put screw-backs on my new earrings so that they wouldn’t get lost. I brought my kids to the store when the earrings were ready and put them in my ears right then and there. It took me a while to secure the earrings, but there was symbolism in this for me, too. Maybe these diamonds would last forever.