As many of you know, my dad is in a long term care facility for late stages of Lewy Body Dementia. I went to see him yesterday and I thought about something that has occurred to me several times over the last year. For those of you who dont know me I love him and I HATE this and that likely goes without saying but worth saying in case you find this bizarre- but at times I feel like
He has taken one for the team
When someone you love so much gets sick- really sick- no turning back sick, they show you in a million ways
~what you are made of
~what you need to work on
~how beautiful, loving, strong and up to the task your whole family is
~how people really close to them reveal beautiful sides to themselves not seen before
~ how the person who is unwell shows a dignity and grace that is breathtaking and sets an example normally not available
~how the children in that family become so educated in compassion- fight for your life compassion-
all through their illness
(where would we have otherwise learned all this?)
A nurse at his facility paid my mom a huge compliment recently- she said “your family is incredible, they are just themselves around your husband, loving, funny, fun, affectionate, adoring”
You know that feeling when you are in the hospital and it is awful and scary and then for a minute it is beautiful too because you realize that nothing else matters.
everything else in the world just falls away
When his only words are “I love you” and they come out perfectly each time over and over you realize there really are no other words at the end of the day.
He is taking one for the team
I know this idea is a stretch but I am trying to find the beautiful in the so awful.