One of the best things about having children start to grow up into people is that you can share big girl and big boy stuff with them
a long time ago we knew each other for a short period of time; you don’t know anything about me. It was easy back then. No one had a cushier berth than we did. It’s not surprising our friendship could survive that. It’s only out there in the real world that it gets tough.
You can chat with them about all manner of things
They can offer wisdom in surprising moments and clarity that can make them ageless
and seconds later they practically step off the curb into oncoming traffic or drop their iPod into their bowl of soup or their BlackBerry in the toilet
But I love that moment when you no longer need to watch Disney movies and you can begin to share some of your favourites with them
I recently watched “The Big Chill” with my younger daughter.
I remember this movie so well. It came out in 1983 and when I was in second year University I had 2 male roomates and 4 female roomates. One of the guys said we were all going to go to this great movie together- it is like ‘family movie night’ he said with a grin
Afterwards we all went out for (too much) beer and sat around a big table and asked each other who do you relate to, which character do you think you are most like, what would you do if you were her/him?
Deep chats after a great movie? LOVE that stuff.
I remember thinking my whole life lay ahead of me. And I was so excited about everything I would be and do. I thought about the kind of person I had wanted to be in my life.
Seeing this sort of life changing movie again with my 15 year old was really fascinating.
She loved it. And I loved it again with her.
I thought about how life has surprised me and how I made my decisions that formed where I am now. Some bad decisions, some great ones, some spectacular ones.
Amazingly I sat there this second time thinking about how my whole life lies ahead of me (still) and I am so excited about everything.
I thought about how friendships reveal themselves when difficult life changing moments come up- stuff we never had to deal with in our early twenties. It made me think about how my closest friends are the finest people and have really stood the test of time. Because those friends at that time have taught me about friendship I have been able to continue to find the best people to get close to.
“In a cold world you need your friends to keep you warm”