It must be hard being a twin sometimes, having to compete for attention and always being compared to your twin.Lately, my girls are arguing more. They still play really well together but they are definitely getting more competitive. I'm sure it's partly an age related developmental … [Read more...]
Being a Step Mom
I haven't written about mothering experiences as a step mom yet. The reason is, I haven't discussed it yet with my step-daughters. They are both pretty much grown now, 18 & 21. They were 10 & 13 when I became their step-mother. My experiences with them have been … [Read more...]
Summertime, and the Living is Easy
I'm a lucky woman. Every summer, when I was growing up, I spent weeks at my grandparent's cottage; swimming, water-skiing, playing cards & board games, reading Archie & Richie Rich comics, playing dress-up, going to town for Chelsea buns and ice-cream, going to Trudy's general store to … [Read more...]
Mono-zygotic, NOT Identical
Do these sweet little faces look identical to you? Here are some interesting facts about "identical" twins. They are not really identical. That's why the medical community, Multiple Births Canada, and other multiples groups prefer the more accurate term, mono-zygotic which means "from … [Read more...]
It’s Not All Bad
Lest you think life with twins is all struggle (I hope I haven't created that impression) this is a brief video post showing how lucky I really am. My girls play together all day long, I can weave in and out of their play at will and they rarely demand my attention (of course if I let them get … [Read more...]
What Ever Happened to Feminism?
I often wonder what has happened to feminism. Several incidents have brought it to mind again. One is that my daughters want every stuffed animal and book character to be a she. Most of us naturally refer to a creature without an obvious sex as a he. For example: teddy … [Read more...]
The First Year
This picture of me is one month into twin newborn life,look carefully at my red, sunken eyes, I think they say it all. The smile says I know how lucky I am in spite of the challenges.The first year with twins is very difficult, particularly the first six months. It is really hard to care … [Read more...]
Serenity & Shyness
Yesterday, I found serenity for 40 minutes. I was doing yoga and it was wonderful. I used to practice all the time but since the girls were born, I haven't had much opportunity. Yesterday, they played together while I did yoga. The day before, they played together while I did … [Read more...]
Breastfeeding Twins: Overcoming Challenges
I think I went into shock that first week after the girls were born. That night, the nurse on my ward looked after Sophie (meaning she slept in her bassinet) while I tried to sleep. For a long time I kept revisiting the births and especially Fiona on my chest and the fear that she could … [Read more...]
Multiple Birthings
This is a happy story of two healthy girls born vaginally and a grieving story of not getting the birthing experience I wanted.Before I was pregnant, or even thinking of getting pregnant, I knew I wanted a home birth with midwives. I wanted a calm, peaceful environment and I wanted to be able … [Read more...]