Written By Christine
Christine is a (mostly) stay at home mum to 2 boys and a little girl. Join her as she navigates life raising a special needs child and all of the trials and triumphs that she and her family encounter on their journey.Read Her Blog "Sometimes Holland Feels Like Hell"
We know that raising kids doesn’t come with a handbook.
We are seeing behaviours I never thought we’d be dealing with.
Aggression. Yelling, hitting, pushing, spitting. Experimenting with swear words.
He doesn’t like when we raise our voices. Sean spoke firmly to him a few weeks ago. Cuyler ran to his room crying. He came down a few minutes later. Sean was cooking at the stove and had his back to the kitchen. Cuyler stood behind him and silently held a piece of paper up to Sean’s back.
He refused to show me what it said. When I finally got a glimpse of it, I saw:
I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry so I did both.
I also told him that I was going to send it to Santa if he did it again.
He hasn’t done it again.
We have rules and expectations of appropriate behaviour in our home.
Yet we have no idea how to discipline him. He knows it’s wrong. He knows he is not allowed to swear. He knows he is not allowed to spit or push. Or throw things.
He has an older brother and a younger sister who can get on his nerves but his reactions are unacceptable.
How do you reason with a child who has no reasoning skills?
I was relieved yet at the same time at a loss as to what to do next. I don’t know what to do next. I don’t know what to do.
Right now we have no other options than to just keep doing what we’re doing. We’ll just keep trudging along, waiting for those small doses of immense joy that I get from him every now and then.
I can effectively discipline my other children. I can reason and negotiate with them.
They are good kids. All three of them are.