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Continuous Reminders From My Boy

July 11, 2011 by Christine

Yesterday we were getting ready to head to our friends little boy’s birthday party. His actual birthday was July 1 – we gave him a gift when we saw them on Canada Day.
Cuyler insisted we bring a gift to the party. How can you possibly go to a birthday party without a gift??  
Sean took him to the store and Cuyler chose a Wiggles dvd for our little buddy.

When they got home I told them that we should make him a card (I have a rule that I don’t buy cards – homemade is best).  
Eva made her card, asking me what letters spell happy birthday. She did a great job with her letters. I was proud.
Then a few minutes later Cuyler exclaimed “I’m done!”
He brought me the card.  
I looked at it and was suddenly hit with a flashback of a moment several years ago when I just assumed that Campbell could sign the cards for any gifts that would be given from the boys (we did not have Eva at that time).  
It was back then that I did not know if Cuyler would be able to hold a crayon without it’s sole purpose being a visual stim.
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This is what he did with a red, yellow, blue and purple crayon (Wiggles colours) for many months when he was not quite 3.  It unnerved me. Sometimes it made me cry when I would try to get is attention and pull him out of the trance the stimming would put him in.  Eventually he stopped.  His stimming is now more of a physical issue.  Much more obvious.

Up until last school year he could not properly hold a pencil to properly form letters.  Gradually over the course of the year he got better, his fine motor skills improved and he even began drawing some pretty amazing pictures.
And yesterday – another one of those little things that hits me out of nowhere and are really not so little to us. It reminded me of how naive I was back then. I had no idea how far my boy would come. All the things he would do. It excites me about the things he will do.
As he proudly showed off the card that he worked so hard on for his little friend – I teared up a little. I turned away so Sean couldn’t see. But yes – there was a happy tear or two.
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Instead of his big brother signing the card for him, he signed for everybody.
Good job Cuy. You continue to amaze me.

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: autism, birthday card, birthday party, drawing, homemade card, stimming, visual stim

Comments

  1. Alice says

    July 12, 2011 at 11:34 pm

    Fantastic. It really shows how amazing the brain is, neurotypical or not, and how we always need to keep trying and hoping, doesn’t it?

  2. Chantel says

    July 12, 2011 at 11:17 pm

    As a mom of two boys with Aspergers this brought tears to my eyes in a big way! It always amazes me how much our children can overcome even though there are times when we think there are things they will never be able to do. My little aspie guy who is 6 is now finally able to write on his own after two years of hard work, tears, tantrums and frustration. Way to go Cuy!

  3. Terry says

    July 12, 2011 at 6:53 am

    I was looking at all the cards last night, and when I came across Cuyler’s I was amazed! It’s really, really good! I love the, “… and Eva too” part.
    And it’s a rainbow – something I know how much Cuy loves… so special!!!

  4. Amy says

    July 11, 2011 at 5:45 pm

    Oh the places he’ll go my friend..

  5. Nancy says

    July 11, 2011 at 2:16 pm

    just got the shivers.
    This stuff is huge.
    I always think never hold the lid on the pot down- let them continue to amaze us.
    And maybe us them too?!

  6. Erin Little says

    July 11, 2011 at 9:58 am

    That’s amazing Christine. This post brought a tear to my eye. Yay Cuy!

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