For instance he’ll ask them what their mom/dad/husband/wife/brother/sister/dog’s name is.
Then he’ll ask how old they are. What year they were born in.
It is not cute nor is it funny. It is rather annoying.
I would love to be able to tell them all to not play into this static behaviour of his. When he asks I wish they would tell him “Cuyler – you know my mom/dad/husband/wife/brother/sister/dog’s name. You’ve asked me everyday for the past 6 months.”
**sigh**
One day after school last week, I noticed him following a little girl around asking her what her brother’s name was. I didn’t recognize her. She was turning her back to him, walking away. He kept asking her. She began circling her dad, who was looking a bit confused. I heard her curtly say to him “Stop asking me! Go away!”
I walked over and said to him “Cuyler she has asked you to stop. You need to leave her alone.” and guided him away.
I asked Cam who the girl was and he said she was new to the school. Started a few months ago.
I take a lot of comfort from the fact that he will be going to middle school with these kids in a few years. Will they have his back? Or will they be influenced by the kids who come from the other feeder schools who don’t know Cuyler and might think he’s odd. Or weird. Or annoying.
Or will they get pulled into it and do it to him?
He has two and half more years in the comfort of his familiar school, with familiar peers and teachers and parents.
In that time Sean and I are committed to getting him to a place where he is not so static. Not so repetitive. We want him in a place where he can fit in and enjoy friendships. We want other kids to enjoy his friendship.
We have a plan. The plan is completely overwhelming me – but it’s there. It’s part of his bio-med protocol, but its drastic.
Please write about the plan. My son is now 6 & has ADHD & SPD (sensory issues)
He doesn’t make friend well & has a very hard time interacting with kids, especially if it’s not just one on one.
He bugs kids too, doesn’t know how to join in & gets his feelings hurt a lot.
As a girl who was relentlessly bullied as a child for years & years, for no reason other then these 2 girls had nothing better to do, I so want to spare him that pain.
I look forward to hearing anything that helps!
It seems like for most parents of autistic little ones, the challenge continues. I am learning that as the child progresses it is the parents who worry the most. let me adlib, I am very good friends to a single mom of a 14 yr old autistic boy, He loves to play with puzzles and army men. it seemed to me for the longest time that this mother was never able to relax in public because she was constantly worried about the way people viewed her son and how they would react to the point that she would leave a public venue because he was being himself. we (family and friends) encouraged her to not to take him away from the event but instead let people see him as himself. Get used to it because he will always be part of the community. Now everybody knows his name and many come to play with him and have accepted him and all his autism. I feel it is a vital part of his personal growth to learn to deal with ignorance because it is out there. Parents of these adorable little youngsters need to understand that some people unfortunatlely are just not openminded and are not educated, But the longer the child is involved the more everyone else grows to love them as much as we do. they cringe becasue they dont understand. once they understand it will get better. stay strong.
Wow, I thought I had a lot to worry about. I like the honesty in your post. Sounds like you’re doing OK. Sounds like things will work out. I look forward to reading more.