I don’t like negativity. I am not fond of doom and gloom but I do like hard questions which is why I like this one these days.
I am curious always with what bubbles to the top right now for people and then next to that, how they are dealing with it.
I guess I wonder too if I am missing a few chapters from the HOW TO manual in life and if I really know what I am doing. It is not so much that I want others to tell me what to do – it is that I want to hear about how they are doing what needs to be done. I wonder how much a person can take, fear my breaking point and yet want NO LESS of anything that I have. Saying no is not a problem- I can do it and do it well. But there is so much to say yes to.
Am I the only one finding this time in my life both the very hardest and the very best?
The problem with it being the very hardest and the very best is that every moment is drenched thick with activity, responsibility, and emotion. The problem with it being the very best is that every moment is zooming by, with so much to love and enjoy and relish in and no time do it.
So when I ask this question- I am saying I work without partner and I live without a partner- and I wonder if all of what I feel is normal. I wonder about how others find solutions and peace and get it all done.
Oh I am so sorry. I can’t imagine how hard this must be for you right now. I hope you have good people around you – let them in. Also see if you can get to a grief counsellor. One day at a time. And time helps although it just can move very slowly at the worst of times. – sending you best wishes and condolences.
My 16 year old son and I are struggling with the sudden death of my husband and his Dad. To add to our stress, his company went bankrupt two weeks later and I have discovered a surprising and overwhelming amount of personal debt.
Our emotions are so mixed up and we are so stressed that it is very difficult to cope right now.
lovely response and I think this is the beauty of the decade you have just entered, Jen!!!
The things that you struggle with as a single mother are finances. I believe that is the only thing that i really struggle with, not that I don’t get lonly every now and again but I did write an article that faces these tough things and answers some questions that you may have as to be a single mother and how it is possible tough yes absoululty but it is possible. http://buynowat.com/?p=20456#comment-9809
Wow. I find as I move into the second half of my life I am living more consciously, paying more attention to the learning opportunities, the decisions I make and their impact, the friendships I have, etc. I feel that in the past I was more passive and let life happen to me a lot of the time. Now I want to sculpt my life, take advantage of it all!
However, I haven’t quite figured out what makes me happy and where the balance is in this. How do I focus on myself without being selfish? How do I do everything I want to do without being overwhelmed?
I don’t know what it is called but that is what I am struggling with!