I neither love nor despise Valentine’s Day.
I know there are many out there who refuse to celebrate it, yelping, “We don’t need a special day to celebrate our love! Every day is beautiful! And he brings me flowers all the time! And it’s just a capitalistic ploy to get us to buy more chocolate and jewellery and greeting cards.” And then there are those who pine for the classic heart-shaped box of truffles or the dozen roses and they are miffed if their significant other lets the day pass without some romantic fanfare.
I am on the fence: I like my husband to acknowledge Valentine’s Day, but a small little gift totally suffices. Give me a card, a tiny treat and a reminder of how AWESOME you think I am, and I’m a happy woman. No need for an expensive dinner or some cliched chocolate-covered strawberries to stir my soul. (Not that I’d mind a grand gesture, I just don’t require one.)
If I could choose any gift to receive this year, however, it would be this:
A weekend off, and away. Also, during that weekend off, a diligent housecleaner would come and organize and scrub our home. In my time away I would sleep, rest, and sleep some more.
I am feeling the burn, you guys. The weight of three kids and all the trials that come with them is really getting to me lately and the sleep deprivation is eating my brain (last night I was up six times in eight hours).
How do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? Are you pro-Vday or do you boycott it? What would be the best thing your spouse could give you this year?
I am not married. I use the day(actually the first 14 days) to tell people how I feel about them (and wrote about it here)
http://www.urbanmoms.ca/flying_solo/2011/02/14-days.html
and then we eat only pink red and white food on VDay. We must wear pink also (my fave colour) I like the day because too much goes unsaid amongst us. I am PRO anything that forces us to say what we would tragic if went unsaid if it was our last opportunity…
My husband passed away suddenly at the end of December so this Valentine’s Day will be tough but my son and I will go out for dinner and share some good memories of his Dad.
MyKidsMom, that sounds HEAVENLY!!! It reminds me of that scene in Date Night, where the wife is describing her fantasy! LOL
I like Valentines if I have a plan…and this year I’m planning on recreating my fav v-day to date…chocolate fondue with strawberries and champagne in bed after the kids have gone to bed. Fun, romantic, cost friendly, and no need to get a babysitter! Although this year we have a one month old to work it around, but hopefully she’ll sleep a bit that night! LOL
If I don’t have a plan, and I know hubby doesn’t either, I don’t get too bent out of shape…we do go on enough “date nights” that it’s not a big deal
I hate valentines day now, my husband and I have not been close in over 10 years it is lousy to live in a so called only functional marriage.
Last year for my birthday MyKidsDad got me a hotel room & gave me a hundred bucks and told me to leave. It was the best birthday present EVER. I did a little shopping, went back to the hotel room & had a hot bath with a book & then went to bed when I wanted and woke up when I wanted!
Oh man a weekend away would be HEAVEN!!!
Speaking of Valentines – my husband is a total boycotter and this time of year he is usually muttering about it being a cash-cow day, how we should show love all the time yada yada yada. Me? I’m a total romantic and would “love” (haha I’m so funny) to be spoiled on Valentines Day.
Dude, I hear you loud and clear. I’ve only got two, and my youngest is (finally) three, so in many ways, life is getting easier. But… it’s been well over 2000 days on this job without much of a day off – I get you. I’d do anything to escape the zoo too.
Six times in eight hours? And you even spelled everything right? You’re my hero, lady.