Oh my god. OMG. I am dying here. Hyperventilating. I THINK MY CLEANING LADY READS MY BLOG. Or at least someone she knows maybe does. Or maybe, hopefully I’m being paranoid. But listen to what happened…
9:52am: The phone rings. I am distracted and answer with an impatient “hello”. Silence. A hesitated “yes…Jen?”. Who the…? Oh. Oh my. It is my cleaning lady. But my cleaning lady never calls me. She has never, ever once called me. Oh no. Oh crap. OK. Calm down. “Oh hi. How are you?” and all the other niceties. And then she says “I’m sorry. I think I made a mistake the other day. I only worked 5.5 hours, not 6.5 hours. I just realized and wanted to tell you. I’m really sorry.” Oh crap. She read it. She must have. She knows. “Oh yeah. I thought so. No worries. Thanks for calling. Bye.” I’m seriously sweating bullets now.
Plus, I feel terrible. Really bad. And guilty. There is an off chance that it was just a coincidence and she suddenly realized it but, really, that is not very likely. So now I feel awful. Because I think she must feel awful.
I suck.
I am a young lady, and i work lots. That’s not me extra fat, and that i am fitness. I simply add;testosterone levels seem because of this due to the fact I sweat just like it’s an excessive amount develop myself and that is quite upsetting. When i perspiration outdoors in the event I am hot. I have field morning tomorrow (outside pursuits) Now i am destined to be playing around and it’s really hot outdoors. We bathe each day My partner and i use deodorant, When i have on cloths that are not small or everything. My partner and i apparel rather cool in fact. Please assist! How can i definitely not sweat an excessive amount?
Why is Developing a Mosque at Ground Zero truly being allowed to take place? I’ve never heard a single thing so totally silly in all of my entire life. If this at any time arrives at fact, It will likely to be the worst thing ever in your life. vicky
You can look at people one of two ways- you assume that people are inherently good, or you can assume people are inherently bad. Instead of assuming that your cleaning lady had made an honest mistake, you jumped to the conclusion that she was trying to mislead you or cheat. You said that you now feel guilty and terrible and really bad- if that is really the case (and you are not just saying that because you think she is reading your blog) than you have learnt a valuable lesson. Hopefully next time there is a misunderstanding you will approach her directly rather than posting your accusations online for anyone to see.
I agree with Annabelle, you don’t suck. It has all worked out OK….you didn’t make a (potentially) false accusation and she has corrected the time she worked. The hard part, I think, will be her first visit back after this and whether or not you are both comfortable with the situation. Good luck Jen!
I TOTALLY know that feeling. I worry about that every time I post about my family…BUT sometimes it’s, yanno, GOOD for people to read your site…then you don’t really have to face it head-on. hahah!
that’s funny (but not “ha-ha”). i agree….don’t worry. nothing hurtful was said by you, she came clean…no pun intended.
you shouldn’t feel bad for the way she may or may not feel. if it was malicious on her part, you definitely shouldn’t feel bad. but if it was an honest mistake (and, truly…i’ve messed up 5:30 and 6:30 before as well on our analogue clocks) as many people thought she would probably just feel sheepish and just be a little more careful next time.
This is a great result but I know what you mean about the stress & how you must feel. On the bright side, if she reads your blog she will see that you really struggled with what to do (ie. ask her about the situation or just let it go). You were not accusatory, you only questioned what had transpired and that is a completely fair thing to do. No need to feel bad, you had the right to question or inquire based on the time discrepancy.
I think she will see that you are human and have gone through a lot of feelings and emotions over this situation and I still believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt because in the short or long term, the truth will come out.
I admire her for calling and apologizing and admitting she made an error with her hours. This shows that if it was an honest mistake she realized it and notified you and if it wasn’t an honest mistake (only she knows), she felt bad and did the right thing which shows she felt bad and hopefully would not do this again.
We recently had a situation where an employee working in our home was not truthful with us and it was very clear cut. Never fun to deal with but definitely not something we could look the other way on.
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You don’t suck. She was wrong. You employ her. She messed up and no matter how she found out , she got caught. Imagine if you didn’t have a blog you would just continue to wonder…. She works for you and now she has clearly been warned to remember that.
It is hard I know, my mom worked as a cleaning lady, she hated all the awful ones out there who would steal from employers and lie about time. The bad apples should be called out.
Don’t beat yourself up over it, if she reads your blog she just knows that you know she was wrong. You didn’t call her any nasty names or insult her.
At Halloween my neighbour said some rude things to be and I facebooked how this upset me and added a “I should really ask when’s the baby due?” insult at the end of it all because she’d recently gained some weight… little did I know she was lurking me and read it. She emailed me an apology for ME misunderstanding HER comments and said I didn’t have to be rude.
What I’ve learned from this – it’s an open forum (somewhat) and if I’m going to express my feelings I need to be prepared for the subjects to read it and review it. And if people are going to lurk they need to be prepared for an un-sugar coated truth about how I feel and react to them.