The nearing date is circled on my calendar when I shall revisit my ob/gyn and have her take a look at my lady bits and deem them fit for wifely duty again.
I don’t hear many women talking about how they resume their sexual relationship with their spouses once they have healed from delivery, but I know in my experience it’s something that you just kind of have to get through and then a few months down the road, (once you’re getting a little more sleep at night and feeling a little less like a bloated dairy cow) you stop and think, “having sex tonight actually doesn’t sound too bad!”
With my first baby, it was very painful to resume relations (I love that word) for a good four months postpartum. That sucked.
Then with my second it was a much quicker healing process and getting back into the groove was much easier.
I have spent the past five weeks focusing solely on my role of “mother” and it’s getting time for me to take back the role of “wife” and “lovah!”
I do find it hard to reconcile motherhood and my sexuality, but it’s worth fighting for. I have a very understanding husband who has been patient and who will be gentle as we find our way together again.
How did you transition back into relations? Was it awkward and painful, or a sweet, horny reunion that’s still going strong?
Uhhhh…we waited 9 days after baby 1, 12 days after baby 2 and about 3 weeks after baby 3. Maybe it helped that my deliveries were good, I only pushed for a couple minutes with each baby and had no tears afterwards. I felt really good, although my husband had the nerve to tell me (9 days postpartum) that I was a bit ‘looser’ than normal.
This might be one for the ‘plus’ column of single parenting! I waited quite awhile…and then umm, went back to the well with someone from my past – I wanted to know if I was different post baby….turns out I wasn’t and neither was he…so it was a on one-off…and you’re right – relations is SUCH a hilarious word!!
With Kaylie, I don’t remember. I was 18 and still living with my parents. Add in tearing and stitches and not being able to walk a week post-partum, I think it was a while. But, I was still a stupid teenager, so I don’t think it was *that* long.
With Liliana, I think we waited five weeks. I was ready at four, but Noah was nervous and didn’t want to hurt me and wanted to wait until the six-week checkup. I convinced him otherwise, a week early.
Good luck!
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I waited till 9 weeks post partum and I could have waited even longer. My boobs were over flowing with milk, my lady parts were still tender, I was exhausted…sex was not on the agenda, I would have rather had a nap! In all honesty, I sort of just wanted to get that first time over with because, yowza it really was uncomfortable!