It’s been a week now and we’re all starting to adjust. I think. I hope. I’m not used to writing so little but honestly, I just haven’t been motivated. When just getting to the can uses up energy, it’s hard to think about being witty or relating the boring nuances of my life to you!
But here’s the scoop! It’s day 8 of many days. Today we ushered in Spring and in my head, I’m counting the days until Summer because I feel that’s when I’ll be back on both feet so it’s a good goal to have in my head.
The thing is – this injury is not just affecting me – but it’s greatly affecting my sister and our boys. Frankly, this is harder to deal with than the cast or crutches. For Suzanne, it’s just a crap load of work piled on top of a life already maxed out with work. Will has this hilarious thing of doing a weekend cheer – it goes like this – ‘No School – No Work – WOOHOO’. He did it to my sister this weekend and I laughed and said ‘Buddy, I’m not sure Auntie considers this no work.’ She has sweetly tried to alleviate my guilt by saying that I would do the same if it was her – which I would – but it still weighs very heavily.
But it’s the boys that I feel the most for. Scotty is eleven and autistic and as I (and Christine) like to highlight – the best thing for a kid with autism is routine and good god are we messing with his right now. The funny thing is this – remove the autism and we’re still talking about an eleven ear old boy sharing his stuff and his house with his VERY loud and VERY active two and a half year old cousin. And truly I see Scotty’s annoyance with Will as very typical which sort of warms my heart (get it? I’m on percocet right now…)
Scotty’s lair is the basement and he generally just hides out there when Will is around. He figured out that Will is afraid of Sully from Monsters Inc. So he now has a big Sully in his room and when he hits the basement, he puts ‘baby’ Sully at the bottom of the stairs to keep Will out.
It worked for a while but Will has become one with Sully now (you can’t see it but he’s actually holding his hand here!). Both mornings this weekend though, Scotty came out of his room and instead of the mad dash to the basement, he engaged with both Will and I and it was awesome! He still would prefer that we not be there, but I’m really hoping over the course of the couple months that we’re there, all of our relationships will just get stronger.
As for Will? He struggled a lot last week. Let me preface this by saying, and yes I’m parental bragging here so shoot me, I have a really great kid. He has his moments but he’s a good listener, he says please and thank you and most people (including his teachers) adore to have him around. Suffice to say after a couple days of reverting back to biting his friends, not listening to his teachers and unleashing his old maniacal laugh – no one really wanted him around. There have been lots of time outs. But Friday night, he came running in the house – SO proud and SO excited to tell me that he had been a good boy (the teachers said it was a ‘better day’ – we’ll take it) and things have been marginally better since. It’s hard for me though to think of how amazingly he was doing and thinking that this is setting him back. Sadly, I take comfort in the fact that some kids are like this all the time….I’m going to hell.
All this being said – and as boo hoo, poor me as this all sounds, I really do understand that this is not the worst thing in the planet. I bow to all of you mothers living with cancer or a disability or any major life disruption because while it’s hard on me know, in a few months, we will all be back to normal until the next crisis hits – and you will not be and this has me even more in awe of all of you.
So for the next few months…you can find us here….at my sister’s on dueling couches! (oh and did I use ‘affect’ correctly – I swear between that and trying to spell definetly….argh)
I spelled seperated this way for 2 years
I cannot tell you the tantrums I would have if I could not fly around on my witches broom at the rate that I do. I think you are amazing and are dealing very well. Countdown is a great idea- hang in there
as my mom told me many times “it is generous of you to ask for and accept help”
xxxn
You definitely used affect correctly. 🙂
Hope you feel better soon!
DEFINITELY.
I was spelling it definately for most of my life – until about last year. Not sure why it took so long…(oh and yes – you’re using affecting correctly).
Isn’t it scary how one split second can change everything…
I’m so glad that you have your sister. And it may no be evident right now but the fact that Scotty and Will have each other is really an amazing thing. As much as he doesn’t like it – Scotty is learning how to live in a more dynamic, unpredictable (louder) world. That is a good thing. When I think of them I think of Cuy and Eva (with a bigger age gap).
Hang in there girlfriend xoxo
Oh bella – crap balls!! I know you’ll be better soon, but I empathise for you all… it’s so great that you have family to turn to like this though! Indeed, things can always be worse. Sending healing vibes and smooches. And patience. xoxoxoxox
Remember that kids are so resilent and I am sure even if Scotty runs to the basement for his quiet time he secretly loves having you guys around. When the time comes I am sure you and Suzanne will both have a bit of a melt down saying “good bye” to eachother and so will Will and Scotty so don’t forget to prepare them for that!!! Nice to see that you and your sister are really close and can come together…Family is awesome. I know they are also enough to drive you up the wall… but at least you can tell them off!!!
Things have a way of being ‘right’ when they happen, and as you said, your relationships
will be stronger…I’m thinking of the boys. It’s probably good for both Will and Scotty,
for different reasons, and you’ll never know those reasons until much further down
the road…Thinking of your situation as…I have had this weird thing with my foot for three
weeks now. I’ve had x-rays, and they say it is just soft tissue bruising, so nowhere
near what you have, but I have been on the couch more…can’t go for my walks, feel
the pounds slipping on, and a general irritability…one day I’m fine, the next day
I’m back to square one…like a nagging toothache…other than that, things are good…!! LOL, reading a lot of great books which is a bonus….setting things in place for the cottage
renovation…so cheers to a partner in crime as everyone at work is calling me ‘Gimpy’ too!!