If I had a dollar for every time a mom told me she is just not motivated to exercise, I would have a lot of money put away! Undoubtedly, the first weeks and months after the birth of a child can be nothing short of emotionally and physically exhausting. For many moms these feelings of exhaustion become a fixture with the birth of each additional child and growing demands. Exercise may be the last thing on a mom’s mind. That’s why getting motivated can often come from a place of inspiration or desperation. Regardless of where it comes from, that motivation is what you need to get going and feel good.
On a personal note, fitness has been the driving force in my life and the one thing that has sustained me for as long as I can remember. Yet, some of you may be surprised to learn that I didn’t love it at first. In fact, I still love how exercise makes me feel after I’m done, but I often wonder how I can get that same feeling (and energy level) without doing it!
About 9 years ago when I was pregnant with my first son, I found just the excuse I needed (or so I thought) to sit on my expanding behind. Late pregnancy brought with it pregnancy-induced hypertension and other complications, including post-partum depression which stayed with me into motherhood.
I gained 65 pounds during that pregnancy and delivered a 5 pound, 15 oz baby. I was miserable. Being active my whole life had not prepared me for the overwhelming experience of motherhood. I needed to feel better quickly because depression was taking over my life. I knew the key was exercise, but I had sunk so low I had no desire.
Getting motivated to exercise when you don’t feel emotionally healthy is especially tough, but here are 5 key things you can do to get your mind and body back on track.
1. Commit to the outcome. Determine your big and small reasons for wanting to get fit. This is a bit different then specific goal setting. This is about constantly defining the kind of life you want to live. Think of it as a personal mission statement.
2. Set goals, big and small. If you feel like you live a pretty healthy lifestyle but haven’t had that I’ve really accomplished something feeling in a while, perhaps it’s time to set a big goal. May be it’s something you could never imagine yourself doing, like competing in a 5 km run or a triathlon. Work towards something that takes you out of your comfort zone.
3. Step back and take stock. If you’ve experienced personal trauma in your life recently or are pulling away because you are feeling overwhelmed, take a step back and think of ways you can include small workouts into your day.
4. Go to bed earlier. This is one thing that can improve your outlook dramatically. Sleeplessness can have a huge negative effect on your decision making ability. If you have young children who still wake up during the night, this is especially important for you.
5. Seek support and knowledge. Some people train well alone while others may need extra support and encouragement. Whether it be hiring a fitness coach or teaming up with a friend, connect with a training partner. It will help you stay motivated and focused.
Most of all have fun. If you enjoy it, chances are you will stick with it!
Andrea Page