Balance. For most women, this means managing work – to achieve better work/life harmony.
A self-professed contrarian – I flipped this equation around and realized for me, balance meant adding work back into my life.
After the birth of my second child, I made the decision to stay at home for a few years to be active in their young lives.
I layered in activities like managing my stock portfolio, volunteering as Treasurer at my children’s local school and earning a second professional designation (that I barely mention, much less apply).
While not every day at home was perfect, I had the opportunity to be hands on with my kids and was able to maintain a reasonable semblance of control on the home front.
I don’t regret a single day or the decisions that I have made. I feel lucky to have had the opportunity.
But I’ll confess – I wrestled with my decision to step out of the workforce.
The truth is – I missed my professional life.
So now, I’m back in the saddle, so to speak. Not to my former professional life in the investment industry but engaged in an entrepreneurial venture that gives me a new challenge everyday, not to mention a bounce in my step.
My daughters (ages 8 and 5 yrs) are old enough to understand I am working again now and that it is important to me.
As we head into September, I realize that some things will change this year. I can’t possibly be as involved with the children’s school, I’ll loose touch with some of the great moms I used to chat with daily and there will be a lot more short cuts taken at home.
But right now, “work” is a key part of my equation.
Whether your equation needs more or less work – or more or less life – the good news is the choice is yours to make. And this fall, ‘empowerment’ comes in all shapes and sizes.
And in case you haven’t heard – the ‘mommy wars’ are over. Having it all means balance.
Kristina Pearce is co-founder of workharmony – an expert in flexible employment. workharmony offers employers innovative recruiting solutions for companies and non-traditional opportunities for professionals. Visit Kristina and Deborah at workharmony.ca.
Anne says
I find balancing how much time I spend at work is very difficult since my office in in my spare bedroom! It is often difficult to let the phone ring when you know it might be a potential new client when you are suppose to be spending quality time with the family.
Sherriemae says
Kristina,
This is something I stuggle with daily, as a teacher and mom to three under 5 I wonder if going back to the work force is the right thing to do or do I take some time off with my family now while they are little…they are only little for such a short time.That is the emotional level of my thinking…as a teacher I see the differnce between kids who have an at home parent and those who go to a caregivers( or into the care of an older sibling) after school. The kids with the parent at home seem, calmer, more put together and less rushed than the student who is shuffled from home to care, to school and back to care is….an ugly truth, due to the fact that my older two both have had that rushed/stressed look on thier faces. I will check out workharmony.ca, any other books/sites you can suggest would be wonderful! Thanks !
Shannon says
Kristina,
Very inspiring. I can’t wait to check out http://www.workharmony.ca!
Shannon