In early August, the Girl and I made a trip to Ottawa to attend my friend, Banoo’s, wedding. I met Banoo in the summer of ’91, while taking a summer course in Organic Chemistry at Dalhousie University. We lived in the same little rooming house and studied together.
Since those few sweet months in Halifax, we’ve never lived in the same city. However, our friendship has lasted over the years, through phone and letters, and now through email and Facebook. I was thrilled to be there for Banoo’s special day, and it was a great experience to share that with my elder daughter.
Over the course of the weekend, I realised the importance of spending “alone” time with each of my children. In Ottawa, we stayed with my cousin and her lovely family, which was a fun, added bonus to the trip.
My friend Banoo, is a Bohri Muslim, a sect of Shia Muslims that is incredibly rich in history and culture. The wedding was a fantastic opportunity to experience some of these traditions in a celebratory and authentic setting.
Mehndi, or henna, plays an important role in the bride’s attire, as it does in most Indian wedding. Banoo was a stunning bride with gorgeous mehndi adorning her hands.
The food at the wedding was some of the most delicious wedding food I have ever tasted. Shortly after the beautiful Nikaah (marriage) ceremony, we were escorted to the dining room, where groups of six people were seated on the floor around a raised table. On the table was large stainless steel plate, the thaal, upon which, the six of us dining together. Spooning out each delicious course after the next, we ate and laughed together, cumulatively joyous over the wedding and the savoury meal.
Aubrey Belluz says
Your guests will be dying to see pictures of your wedding, so by using digital wedding photography you can have your photographer post your pictures quickly on your own personal website/online photo album.
Date an Asian Girl says
Date an Asian Girl
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banoo the bride says
Hi Sabita,
More details about the wedding customs can be found here:
http://www.mumineen.org/archive/deen/sharia/marriage/
But I highly recommend just discussing it more with your boyfriend and his family to find out your comfort level, since (1) they probably know about many of these traditions, and (2) all the wedding festivities go on for a few days which you are both going to participate in together, with your families an close friends. Planning a wedding really brings a couple closer together, with each other and the families.
Good luck!
Banoo
Sabita says
Hi! Could you kindly give me like an email address of your friend who got married? My boyfriend is bohra but i’m a sunni from another country and I just wanted to know what were the customs of the bohri wedding. Please excuse me if I’ve caused any inconvinience. Just the personal information would really help about marriage customs. Thanks