My husband and I are completely honest with each other,about everything. And we're very open and honest with the partners we've had. We think it's the foundation to successful open relationships - truthfulness.And yet, I lie to some of the people in my life I love most. I lie to my mother when … [Read more...]
What’s Missing?
I've heard the argument that my main relationship must be lacking something that I need. That I'm not fulfilled. I disagree. I was deeply satisfied by my relationship before we opened it up, and if one of us decided to close it, I feel I'd still be deeply satisfied by my relationship. For us, it's … [Read more...]
Label it
Last week I wrote about how it all started. Today, I'd like to address where we've ended up - at least in terms of what to call what we're doing. There's a lot of labeling in our world. It's certainly easier to judge someone when you can shoehorn them into a box and slap a label on the outside. … [Read more...]
How it all Began
My husband and I recently celebrated 14 years of marriage. We're perfectly complimentary - I'm an extrovert, he's an introvert. When I get amped about an idea, he helps me make the tactical plans, and when he's reticent to participate in something, I'll nudge him along and help smooth his way … [Read more...]
Ricki Lake – a Swinger?
Apparently not. She says it's not for her - she likes monogamy - but she did cover the topic in a recent episode. http://therickilakeshow.com/episodes-clips/2012/9/Reality-TV-Stars-Talk-Swinging I liked that the swingers they interviewed weren't the very marginal respresentatives of swinging - … [Read more...]
This Ain’t No Key Party
Who Am I? I'm a normal, middle-class, married to my high school sweetheart Canadian mom of two. My husband and I couldn't look more like the "Joneses" if we tried. We're average in pretty much every way - except we have an open marriage, and have sex with other people. To look at us, we … [Read more...]