My daughter is intense and spirited but nothing could prepare me for
her over-the-top tantrum the other day. And NOTHING could prepare me
for the judgment I felt from another mom. Perspective and advice
required on this one! (btw, in case you are wondering why there are two parts it is because I had a lot to say and couldn’t fit it all on one podcast)
Part 1:
Ouch… you know, these things happen, and those of us who are “real” moms can tell usually tell the difference between a habitual tantrum thrower coddled and snuggled by dear mommy because someone must have injured her little angel and an OMG I can’t believe she did that, this is what I get for overdoing *summer*, *vacation*, *red candy*, or *insert other obvious over-tired frazzled kid maker*
Those of us that are not “real” moms choose to judge you, believe *OUR* little angels could never do such a thing, and are the women who drive the rest of us INSANE at PAC meetings.
Lol, just be glad you don’t socialize with them that much…
her child is obviously perfect (insert rolling of eyes here) and she’s not worth all this heartache. kids have fits. PERIOD. moms have them, too and yes, we both have them together. we are not a sit-com where we solve everything with a lollipop and a hug, stuff happens. you are a good mom, you recognized that the reaction was bad, you apologized as well as your daughter.
if she can’t get her head out of her perfect butt then too bad. you are the better person for it.
Why, oh why do we women do that to each other!! So much easier to judge than to be supportive, I guess. There needs to be more discussion about how to be of help to each other – moms or co-workers etc.
Sounds to me like you are taking the right approach. Support your daughter, be aware of the triggers and run interference to prevent further situations.
As for the other mom – it happened, forget about it.