There is a saying in Spanish which roughly translated means “Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are”. This is an enduring rule which hits you hard as you age and your friendships are tested. Of everything we teach our children, this may be one of the most important things. If your friends have been chosen wisely, you will float through every difficulty.
It has come to my attention that my closest friends all have the following things in common-
– a great relationship with their parents and an ongoing great attempt if not wonderful relationship with sibs
– a happiness for other people’s success, good health and good fortune
–no agenda or ledger when they help. They simply do and are
-they are in no hurry for their kids to leave them. They treasure their time with them. More and more I realize the parenting world is divided into those who cry on the first day of school and those who cry on the last day of school. A summer alone with their children terrorizes them.
All of my closest friends cannot get enough of their children
-they are tremendous listeners
-they are curious
–they love life
-they take care of themselves
-they are never too busy, the event is never too far and you are all they need to make the trip for. They never say”who else is going to be there?” You are it for them.
When you play tennis with someone who has a solid backhand, you benefit. Perhaps you show them how to serve well but they play well at the net. Friendship is the same. The best people bring you and your game up.
You end up as you deserve. In old age you must put up with the face, the friends, the health, and the children you have earned.
Nice. Very nice.
I love this post! I also think that true friends have seen you at your best and your worst…and still support you in the same way…
oh and they don’t buy cheap wine…yeah…I like that one.
The pictures are awesome!
What a great post. So very, very true.
So true and so wise. Thanks Nancy.