I received a letter from a subscriber in response to an advice post about the extremely hard comments/questions she received after she left her marriage of 36 years.
1. How can you do this to your children?
2. Do you know how lonely he is?
3. Do you know how confusing you are?
4.You need to pray more and harder and ask for forgiveness as marriage is a sacrament.
5.How can you leave him when he is so vulnerable?
6.Why can’t you just put the issue behind you? Ignore them.
7. Do you know what you will lose financially with the house etc?
8. You need to move on and stop crying.
9.You need to understand that a man thinks differently and they can’t express what they need.
10. You need to forgive and let go of any need for sex or intimacy because you are getting older anyway.
11.What about your vows?
12. Where is your loyalty?
13.But he does not believe in divorce and honours his vows.
14. He seems like he is shocked. Are you expecting too much.
15.This is very unfortunate for all the family and now you are hurting the grandchildren. How can you do that?
She goes on to share with permission “It is only my own therapeutic awareness and integrity that kept me together some days. I learned to discriminate with whom I can safely share grief. No woman leaves without a lot of hurt, disappointment and shame .When you are vulnerable be careful with those whose own self absorbtion and limitations should not direct your path. Find angels who know the power of embracing you so you can fly. Keep your own spirit alive, nourished and positive. And for women of my age, it is not too late as every day of life is a gift.”
Thank you for sharing your story. And thank you to angels everywhere.