There is a whole lot of marriage talk among the K-room set at the daycare lately. It’s almost as if they are following the U.S. debate on marriage equality.
Not a day goes by without Will giving me the rundown on who is going to marry who and who got mad because so and so said they wouldn’t marry so and so. I love it because it’s fresh. It’s not tainted yet by what their parents may feel or what they read in the news. They aren’t being influenced by nasty divorces or people who oppose same-sex marriage. They just wanna get married!!! (But they SURE don’t want to kiss anyone).
Will wants to marry me. But I told him that of all the options available to him, I’m one of the few who are off limits. So he decided on Kaiden at school or Auntie Jodi. He’s not at all put off by the fact that Jodi is already married (he nicely agreed that Uncle Ryan could still live with them if he wanted).
I am using this whole marriage obsession to talk to him about how he is free to love and marry who ever he wants. Mind you, he looks at me with the ‘duh, I know that Mom’ look when I say he can marry another boy. It’s also a great opportunity to talk to him about how you don’t have to get married to have a family. How you can love someone but not choose to marry them. Or how it’s perfectly okay to be by yourself.
I do wish he was slightly older so I could use this week’s U.S. Supreme Court debates on same sex marriage as a teaching tool. But then again, maybe I wouldn’t need to. Not to get all patriotic about it but he’s being raised in a tolerant country, in a very gay-friendly city by a liberal mother. My hope is in a few years from now when he reads back about this week’s proceedings, he’ll be as baffled as I am why it’s even a debate.
Are you and your family discussing marriage equality this week?
for us it’s normal. my youngest had a teacher who was married with kids so she understands who people can marry. they both really want to marry their best girlfriends and i’ve said it’s okay but they have to want to marry you back! 🙂
i sometimes ask my mom if my brother and me are actually related because he is of the troglodyte era and thinks it’s so wrong…yet his daughter is dating a fella who is a different colour. i think that, too, was illegal in the states 40 years ago!
i don’t understand the people who think it’s wrong because a 2000 year old book said so. if you’re going to live by the bible, then do it, don’t pick and choose which rules apply to you. (I’m looking at you troglodyte brother who let his son get a tattoo which is clearly banned by the bible!) 🙂
When my oldest was in Kindergarten, she said she wanted to marry her BF at the time. I smiled and said, “wonderful!” Her friend, however (attending the Catholic school) laughed outrageously and said, “you can’t marry me, silly! We’re both girls! You have to marry a boy!” I don’t normally get into it with other people’s children, but I did that day. Gay marriage laws had just been passed here in Canada and I made sure both girls knew it!
Oh man, I hope it’s “so not a thing” from here on out, forever, and amen. I mean really, world… let’s get over this nonsense and move on to other important things!!