I’m curious on your opinion on something.
Nudity. In front of your kids. At what point is it unacceptable? I’m super comfortable naked, Frankly, I wish we lived like cavepeople and never wore clothes. It would be cheaper and okay, slightly cold in the winter but then we’d all better understand shrinkage. No? Kidding aside, I want Will to be really comfortable with nudity as well. It’s a hangup that doesn’t need to be had. Everyone has the same bits so what is the big deal.
Will is four and a half. We still take baths together. I’ve been criticized for this. I honestly don’t see the big deal. We live a busy life. It’s a guaranteed 20 minutes of uninterrupted, no phone, no tv time for us. And if I wasn’t in there, whose leg would he use as a skateboard ramp for Alvin and the Chipmunks?
After the tub, we get into our jammies and read books. He goes to bed and then a few hours later, I take my jammies off and go to bed. Sue me. I like to sleep naked. Inevitably he ends up in my bed. Should I be wearing pjs?
How do you strike the balance between him being comfortable in his nudity and mine without him being ‘too comfortable’. I wondered if he was too comfy at a friends place when dinner was over and he announced – It’s NAKED TIME – and stripped off his clothes.
Sidenote – if we wore clothes all the time, the hilarious conversation about the difference between nipples and boobs that we had last night would never happen. “Mommy, if you used to feed me from your nipples, why are they still there, wouldn’t I have eaten them right off?’ Good GOD.
What do you think? Is there a ‘no nudity’ cut off rule that I don’t know about???
I agree with everyone else, Sara…he will let you know when it’s no longer comfortable. Or else you will feel uncomfortable yourself – every now and then my littlest one makes a comment about my saggy boobs and I feel less and less like being in the nude with her in the room – go figure!
Like you didn’t have it before.
and there is a visual I will have for the rest of my life.
I think mr. stopped taking baths with girl 8 in around kindergarten. We figured there comes a point at which is starts to seem weird, even though we weren’t too worried about it. It also coincided with the point where she was getting big enough to take up a lot of space in there! He does still bathe with the Bun, who is in kindergarten, because he is not too reliable about cleaning himself, but it’s getting cramped, so I’m not sure it will be much longer.
I’m all for naked times. As long as they know it’s for “at home” then I think it’s cool. They naturally start shrinking back when they feel like it. We only have one bathroom, and someone is almost always in some state of undress an one point or another. Being comfortable in your own skin in front of your kids is healthy, I think.
You will know…I have no problem being naked infront of the girls…but when Charlotte said..”oh Daddy…nice penis” , Carlos started closing the door and not being naked….
When your kid sees you naked, then runs from the room yelling, “Lady’s hygienes! The horror!” – like my kids do – then it is time to cover up, my friend. Especially if he gets hungry for a midnight snack and starts eyeing those nipples…
I am pretty naked around my boys and they are the same with me. Steph is a bit more demure, but without an ounce of shame. Kimmy is right, the kids will drive it. Hud longs for a bit more privacy where as Tasman, like his father, will Gangham Style fully buck for kicks and giggles.
It’s only a big deal when it’s made a big deal. Life is too short to not be naked sometimes.
J.
I think your child will let you know. Especially when it comes to mix genders. We are of the hey “we’re in our room and can be nekkid all we want”. 😉
Sounds like you are open and honest. Just continue that. and let him know that changes are coming and someday he might not feel as comfortable around all this nakedness and that’s ok too.
Our girls started closing their doors to change clothes around 9 -10. We knew they were looking for privacy.