God I miss you. I’m trying to move on. Trying not to focus on what we had. But it’s so hard. I think about you all the time. Even though I knew it couldn’t last, I dreamed about us being together forever.
I miss our times together. I’d wake up in the morning and dream about you and then when we’d be together, you’d always leave me wanting more. I never tired of you.
I think back to our times and I smile – it’s a bittersweet smile that only those who have loved and lost can appreciate. But as the days go by – I’m forgetting. I’m forgetting the good times and I’m just getting bitter.
So bitter. How could you just leave me? After three goddamn years – you just decide that’s it and that I don’t need you anymore? Well to hell with you. I don’t need you. I’m strong. I’ll figure out a way to move forward in my life without you.
Oh yeah. Somehow I will.
So screw you afternoon nap. Screw you!
I’m better off without you.
Yours truly,
Sara
x
*Okay. Okay GOD! I didn’t mean it. Please…PLEASE come back to me. I’m not ready for life without you afternoon nap. I’m not. Think about it. Call me. I’ll be here waiting for you. Always.**
Mine is effectively gone. I am so sad. SO SAD. I NEED THOSE NAPS!!!!!
Hey Angele! I’m going to try an earlier nap time maybe that will work because I don’t think he’s ready! He will fall asleep the minute were in the car after 2pm. He doesn’t have meltdowns at the end of the day but he goes CRAZY!!!!
The name of the game is this… if your child can make it to bedtime without falling asleep in the car, in the stroller, or on you and is relatively alert (not a walking zombie)… then he doesn’t need his nap anymore. Until then… they need a nap and you should not give up on it. They may skip 1 or 2 in the week, but keep at it if the above applies. I find that you need to adjust the time of the nap when they get older. For example, maybe he always napped at 1pm… but you may need to adjust to 12pm or 2pm depending on when they are getting up and their energy levels. If you miss the “sleepy window” then they get their second wind and they are old enough to fight the nap and you pay for it until they go to bed with mr or miss crabby pants.
Oh, it is so hard. My boys did the same, I stopped nursing them at 2 so their naps went out the window. It is hard but try to find the comedy in watching their little faces fall into their dinner at 5pm.
Both of my girls gave up their naps before they turned two. I feel for you Sara! It’s tough not having a break and needing to be ON all the time.
A couple of my extra kids’ parents are pushing hard for me to end the afternoon nap. They’re not ready. I’M not ready. I’m of the opinion that as long as everyone still goes down willingly, has a solid snooze, and wakes up ready to play there is no reason for me to mess with it. My son doesn’t nap on the weekend, but he does sleep in until 9 or 10am. And I will hold onto that for as long as I can 🙂
Lori! I don’t know what I’d DO IF IT was all week!!! (i.e. the daycare people can still get him down for an hour a day – but not me!) I will have a little weep for your hubs!
Sara I usually lurk, but I had to comment because your timing is perfect. Our little guy, not quite 2 1/2, is now no longer a napper. Effective this weekend. I think he’ll adapt without too much trouble, it’s his full-time daddy that is going to miss those naps the most I think!
Oh, Ack. I know. I know.
Duct tape & punches is the only solution. (Just kidding!!) He’ll likely settle into a quiet-time routine on his own, mid afternoons. And/or he might just start going to bed a little earlier. But, I feel for you, lady. Poop.
that was me yesterday Aileen! I thought he was quiet and down…and then I hear ‘I’m not sleepy mommy’…NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! He was freaking sleepy an hour later when he fell asleep in the car.
My daughter is nine and I still remember the day… She was two and a half, her baby brother eight months and we had settled nicely into a lovely routine of lunch, toddler watches 15minutes of tv while baby gets put down for nap, toddler gets put down for nap and delirious mommy gets an hour of “me” time (also known as mommy goes down for nap). Said toddler found at top of stairs and asked by mommy “why aren’t you in bed?” answered, “I just no sleepy!” with hands wide and eyes large and sparkly. Sigh. I think I cried a little as I dragged out play doh and crayons…
You got an extra year than I did. Afternoon nap was GONE the same month she turned 2…
I agree with Joanna – I had to do that. Bedroom for books and quite playtime for a little while.
The hard part about that was the horrible witching hour that came between the hours of about 4 and 6pm. Hope Will misses that phase!!!
silver lining…..earlier bedtime! i found there’s a three month “sucks period” but then it’s awesome! you can do it!!!!
Love it! I propose quiet time…it’s my sanity saver…even if it’s only 20mins. Good luck 🙂
Oh my gosh! I love this post! I’m coming to that stage of my life too although I don’t see it coming until early next year. I’m sure I’ve just jinxed myself now.