I saw this video on facebook last week. What an amazing girl. What a beautiful relationship. I’m glad she’s shared it with the world.
When I watched it I cried.
When I watched it I cried.
I cried thinking about my own children. I often wonder how Campbell and Eva will deal with having a special needs sibling as they get older.
I thought about how much Eva enjoys playing with Cuyler. Thought about her snuggling in bed with him at night reading books or watching a video. She loves him so much.
I thought about how proud I am of Campbell for being so patient with Cuyler when he could very well get angry with him. He gets angry at him, for sure – that’s normal. But there’s another side. A side that makes me proud of the empathetic boy he is.
I felt a sadness about Cam being embarrassed by Cuyler’s behaviour sometimes. I don’t blame him. On the other hand I never want anything about Cuyler to be embarrassing.
I felt a sadness about Cam being embarrassed by Cuyler’s behaviour sometimes. I don’t blame him. On the other hand I never want anything about Cuyler to be embarrassing.
I felt a sense of fear about how other kids will treat Cuyler as they get older and less tolerant. I cried thinking about Cam and Eva dealing with that.
This video has made me supremely aware of the important role siblings play in our family. I was filled with thoughts about my kids. About how amazing they are. About how grateful I am for their dynamic little sibling unit. How grateful I am that they have each other.
This is how I described them to an intake worker yesterday:
“They are exactly what each other needs. Cam is an amazing older model for Cuyler. Eva is the perfect age for Cuyler because she is (on many levels) at the same stage as Cuyler. In turn, he teaches them tolerance, patience and empathy. They came in the order they did for a reason. The most important part of a sandwich is the middle. But it’s not a sandwich without the bread holding it all together. That’s what we’ve got. The perfect sandwich.”
“They are exactly what each other needs. Cam is an amazing older model for Cuyler. Eva is the perfect age for Cuyler because she is (on many levels) at the same stage as Cuyler. In turn, he teaches them tolerance, patience and empathy. They came in the order they did for a reason. The most important part of a sandwich is the middle. But it’s not a sandwich without the bread holding it all together. That’s what we’ve got. The perfect sandwich.”
Sean and I with our perfect sandwich
beautiful post and beautiful video. Good cry.
I love your sandwich, christine. It is perfect.
Beautiful post, beautiful family, beautiful siblings. Just beautiful!
i am so proud of all the kids christine. sometimes cam gets a little annoyed with things but by enlarge he is wonderful with cuy. to be so young and do what he does for and with cuyler is amazing. that goes for eva also. last week they were having a little boy fight. i was going to stop it and changed my mind. i said
to them “ok no hitting to the head no kicking or biting, but go ahead.” they did.for a few minutes they “had a go!!” and it was pleasing to see them go at it as young boys do. each exerting his strengths and weakness`s to the other just like you would expect from boys….. and they were enjoying it to boot!! nobody got hurt and it was a joy to watch them and cuyler held his own.when it was over they were just 2 brothers as always. you may ask ” so you watched them fight!!!!”
yes i did and i enjoyed it!
xo I often what am I putting on the little brother, hes already a caretaker at 8.
but I also know, he is strong, empathetic, will stand up for all kids not just his brother.. he wont tolerate a bully, he will accept differences, and his character will be strong. They will always have each other. because no matter what, they are siblings, friends, family..and love each other. Thats all that matters
Beautiful. Your family is amazing 🙂
LOVE that family photo of you all together. 🙂
can;t watch the video through my tears at the post….what a great analogy
What a great video… thanks for sharing it! And what a great family you have, Christine… lovely. xox