Talking About Dying-Part 2

tackling the elephant in the room

The other day, I touched on why we are afraid to talk about dying.

It is very tough. We’d all rather talk about life.

But there are some important benefits on having these tough discussions.

When we acknowledge death:

• We have the opportunity to savour life

Hope comes from the comfort of knowing that we’re doing the right thing.

• We have the time to savour love

We can focus on what is important right now: Being present with our loved one

• It results in collaborative problem solving

Hope comes from the comfort of knowing that we’re doing the right thing.

• We hope for the opportunity to share each available moment we have.

• By talking about dying we prepare for our own circle of life and take time to reflect on how we’ve lived our lives

• We help our loved ones to prepare

When we talk openly about dying:

• Everyone involved has a chance to process information and ask questions

• Offers the opportunity to share stories, emotions, grief

• Increases the likelihood of making the right choices and decisions

• Increases the likelihood of making the right choices and decisions

• Removes the burden of doubts and feelings that the death of your loved one is your responsibility

I have seen the peace that comes to loved ones when they are absolutely clear as to the wishes of the one who is ill. This is a gift.

I have also seen a 92 year old woman on a feeding tube for 4 years, in and out of the hospital, and in a vegetative state because her son wont let go.