I wish, when I was pregnant, that someone would have let me know how
completely unprepared I really would be for motherhood. It seems that
no matter how many books I read or how many other moms I talk to, there
is always something about having a baby that throws me for a loop and
knocks me off my high horse. I find myself wanting to scream out on a
daily basis, “WHERE ARE THE INSTRUCTIONS FOR THIS KID?”.
I am
honoured to get to blog for urbanmoms.ca, a site I frequent, love and
need! I had my baby boy 6 months ago and my life has been a whirlwind
ever since. I have never felt so much love, frustration, and joy in my
life. He has become my absolute world- enough to make me wonder what I
lived for before I had him and why I didn’t have him earlier. That
being said, I don’t have a clue what I’m doing half the time. There is
so much information out there and so many well-intentioned people with
well-intentioned opinions, that it’s hard to figure out exactly which
direction to take. Especially without a map.
In my “past life”
(also known as “before the boy”), I was an elementary school teacher,
wife, avid runner, low-carber, book devourer, and movie watcher. I
loved my organized and predictable life. I had (and still have) a
great husband, amazing friends, and a carefree lifestyle. I loved my
job, my house, and my freedom, but I knew that I wanted needed more, and I got it on May 2nd, 2009, when I had my beautiful baby boy.
I
hope you will join me as I try to find my way through the diapers,
drool, laughter, spit-up, smiles and tears. Whether you are expecting,
have a new baby, or are an old pro, I’m sure that you can relate to the
numerous feelings, fears, joys, and problems that can be overwhelming
in mommy-hood.
Give me your advice, commiserate with me, tell me off when I’m being
whiny, remind me how lucky I am! Because I’m definitely a Mom Without A Map– which is probably a good thing, because I’m awful at reading
directions anyway!
My little guy also came without instructions! As a first-time mom, who used to think she was pretty smart, I find great comfort in knowing I’m not the only one who feels clueless. Yet it’s amazing, he’s thriving in spite of me! Looking forward to future posts.
HI Sarah! Welcome to Urbanmoms. I loved your first post. I’ve actually read your blog at Sleeping is for Losers (great title) and I think I’ve even commented! Look forward to reading more of your adventures with the boy – I empathize with your feelings of confusion and overwhelmedness – I was the same with my son years ago. xo
Hi Sarah… I feel like i’m in the same boat as you… I have a 7 month old and just rummaging through all the mixed messages and differing advice is difficult. When my baby was 6 months, I had to start looking into sleep training (it worked) and starting solids (which I’m still trying to figure out). You asked for a reminder of how lucky you are… My friend just lost her baby (Stillborn at 8.5 months gestation) on Friday. Whatever problems I had this week, I just keep telling myself and my husband how lucky we are that we have these worries. She would love to have these little problems. I look forward to your blog. =)
Great first post, Sarah. As you’ve no doubt discovered, motherhood is at once the best and most difficult job EVER. But it’s also the most fulfilling. Looking forward to reading this blog!
Sarah glad you sharing your new experiences! Keep writting it like it is!!!!
Welcome to the “club”! My boys are 10 and 7 and I still feel that I’m “driving on the highway without a license …or map…” Don’t want to scare you. It seems that you just get used to not knowing what to do and simply trying to do your best. You are doing great. Don’t doubt it.
i’m on board! looking forward to what you will write, and it better not make me feel inadequate. just kidding. i know it’ll be great.
You have obviously found the best job in the world, “motherhood”!
Excellent way of putting the the last 6 months of our lives into words. The one thing I get from reading it is, I wouldn’t change a thing about it!
Great to have you with us, Sarah! My husband and I often laugh thinking about what we ever did do fill our time before we had kids. And we always thought we were so busy!