Three girls’ voices, all clamoring over one another to be the loudest, the most heard.
All the time, three voices, each clawing for my attention, begging for my time.
That’s a lot of noise, a lot of needs, a lot of responsibility.
I was born into my family as the only girl. I savoured Saturdays at the food court in the mall, just me and my mom, gabbing about life and feeling like a special kid with all the one-on-one time we shared. My younger brother shared a similar bond with my dad, but instead of the mall they could be found on the sports field. We both had a lot of one-on-one time with our parents.
That is NOT how things are going to look in our family. Three boisterous sisters, all born a mere two years apart from each other, and the one-on-one time is mighty hard to come by. This is new territory for me and I don’t want to blow it. I have an amazing relationship with my mom and so much of that is due to the quality time we shared, and I am scared that I won’t be able to replicate that with our three girls.
How am I to honour them individual needs and personalities when I am so often overwhelmed by their collective force?
Anyone been there and done that? Either on the giving or receiving end? Were you born into a big family with lots of siblings of the same sex to compete with? Or do you have kids in the same boat? How do you go about carving out the time to make sure they don’t just get lost in the shuffle?